I caught my boyfriend of 5 years in bed with my daughter. I love and miss him so much. He won't even phone me to explain to me why it happened. What can I do? I can't get any kind of closure.

Are you serious?
How old is your daughter?
If she is a minor did you call the cops on his butt?

Are you serious?
How old is your daughter?
If she is a minor did you call the cops on his butt?

She is 18 and Yes I am serious

Did you talk to your daughter about it?
What kind of explanation do you need? He was in bed with her and he should not have been. Was it the first time this had happened?



You need to find out if this was a one time thing or something he has been doing to her, then you need to look into pressing charges if she was a minor when this happened.
Of course he is not going to talk to you. What he did was low down and dirty. You need to love your daughter and forget about this creep.
What does your daughter have to say about this?

Did you talk to your daughter about it?
What kind of explanation do you need? He was in bed with her and he should not have been. Was it the first time this had happened?


She denied it and I don't know if it was the first time all I know it hurts so bad

When I triéd talking to her she asked me was I jealous of her

Are you entirely out of your mind? I don't mean to be insensitive - it's not about you any more. Your job is to be a mother. This guy manipulated you so he could take advantage of your daughter for heaven's sake.

You don't say how old your daughter is but she needs you to be a mother and he needs - well, he needs to be directed to the curb by both of you, even if your daughter is an adult. If your daughter is an adult, she needs counseling to figure out why on earth she would consent to such an abusive situation as this.

The relationship you need to work on is that with your daughter - your relationship with this guy wasn't real to start with.

Now I see that your daughter is 18 - I'm sorry I did not see that. This is a predatory relationship. She may be a legal adult but it probably started a long time ago and don't start splitting hairs that your daughter was an adult.

I can just see you blaming her for being routinely raped by the creep that mom brought home.

This guy is a child abuser and rapist. Your daughter is a victim and so are you. Take care of your daughter, call the cops on the creep.

You and your daughter may need to do some counseling to get through this. What this creep has done to your family is wrong.

How can you miss someone who used you to get to your child? It's sick
Make your girl confess everything and if it occurred while she was minor, you'll have a decision to make

Your closure comes with getting the full truth. And the proper help to heal, even if that means a cop if this has gone on before. Get your daughter some counseling to find out the whole story.