How do you convince someone that, even though the first try at a relationship failed, they should give you another chance?

There's only one true answer to this. The answer is that you can't convince anyone that they should give you another chance. The only person that you can control or convince in a relationship is yourself. If this individual doesn't want to give you another chance for what ever reason, trying to force them to do so will only do more damage than good. I know how hard it is. Ive been through that situation many times before. The only thing that you can do is give that person time and space and when they see that you're moving on, perhaps they will start to rethink things, but that rarely happens.. so just give them their time and space... and if you're religious, I recommend reading the bible. And maybe writing down reasons the relationship didn't work, and start working on healing.

Hope I helped. Good luck!

There's only one true answer to this. the answer is that you can't convince anyone that they should give you another chance. The only person that you can control or convince in a relationship is yourself. If this individual doesn't want to give you another chance for what ever reason, trying to force them to do so will only do more damage than good. I know how hard it is. Ive been through that situation many times before. The only thing that you can do is give that person time and space and when they see that you're moving on, perhaps they will start to rethink things, but that rarely happens.. so just give them thier time and space... and if you're religious, i recomend reading the bible. and maybe writing down reasons why the relationship didnt work, and start working on healing.

Hope i helped. good luck!



I notice you bring religion into your posts. Not everyone here believes your beliefs or, in fact, believes in the bible.

Please leave religion out of things.

Relationships don't deserve a second chance, they didn't work out the first time what makes anyone think it will again?

It's kind of like, buying the same crappy chocolate bar twice hoping the second time it will taste better.


I notice you bring religion into your posts. Not everyone here believes your beliefs or, in fact, believes in the bible.

Please leave religion out of things.

Exactly what I was thinking.

There is a forum regarding religion on this site. If you feel the need to talk about your religion take it there please. Remember you are on a site with many different individuals of many different beliefs. Religion is just a topic of argument.

I notice you bring religion into your posts. Not everyone here believes your beliefs or, in fact, believes in the bible.

Please leave religion out of things.

I actually appreciated it.


Relationships don't deserve a second chance, they didn't work out the first time what makes anyone think it will again?

It's kind of like, buying the same crappy chocolate bar twice hoping the second time it will taste better.

I'll tell you why I know it will work. I dated her during a very immature part of my life and the whole reason why it failed was because I didn't handle things maturely. 2 years and 76 dates later (yes I counted), my feelings for her are still growing. She just dates douche after douche. It's always the same story; she "falls in love" and she becomes almost completely blind to their BS until they do something that she can't make an excuse for. She once said that I was the only guy that has ever stuck by her even when she refused to date them (then of course she dated me and I screwed it up). I was also the only guy that she has ever been totally open with.

I actually appreciated it.


That's nice - not AMHD policy but nice.

I'll tell you why I know it will work. I dated her during a very immature part of my life and the whole reason why it failed was because I didn't handle things maturely. 2 years and 76 dates later (yes I counted), my feelings for her are still growing. She just dates douche after douche. It's always the same story; she "falls in love" and she becomes almost completely blind to their BS until they do something that she can't make an excuse for. She once said that I was the only guy that has ever stuck by her even when she refused to date them (then of course she dated me and I screwed it up). I was also the only guy that she has ever been totally open with.

Then what are you doing here? If telling her that doesn't bring her back then there's not much else you can do.

Just improve yourself and I promise doors will open to you take it from experience, only time will tell if you'll get back together with her but for now don't beat yourself up you deserve to be happy on your own and you will be happy if you choose to be. Its up to the people around you if they want to be in your happy life, think about this if you remain sad why would people especially girls would want to be in it