Hey all! An avid reader but a new poster here.

So I have a situation for you to give me your insight. So here it goes!

I'm a 21 year old dude. Not been a fan of the whole "relationship" concept, I am known for spinning plates and for some occasional one night stands. But this time things got a bit different...

A month ago, me and two of my best friends decided to go clubbing. The two of them brought their respective girlfriends and one of them brought her 18-year-old blond HB9 sister with whom I spend all night talking and making out and we ended up having sex.

Even though she's a bit immature, she's very fun to be with (and extremely gorgeous).

The following days, the girl added me on Facebook (some of her friends did the same) and began constantly starting conversations with me and we would bust each others balls all the time. She even started to go out with my friends which was something she never did before. In all of these outings, at first she was always shy but as time went by and I started to make her at ease, we started to act like a couple (and I started to develop feelings for her). Sometimes, my friends would even start to talking about my "women experience" (exs and stuff like that) and she was visibly upset by it (which seems to me like a very positive sign). But in those outings, we never got to spend some time just the two us.

After the last time (last week) we got out (again in group), she has changed her behavior completely. The following times (3 times or so) I chatted with her on Facebook, we only talked for 5 minutes because she had to leave (one time, she even stayed online, after saying goodbye, for 30 minutes or so). And the last time, we were talking about some event, and I said to her " I'm going to the event and I think you should come with me". But she never spoke again.

Seriously, usually it's me that gives ladies a cold shower and now that I'm going "gaga" for this girl, she's behaving like a spoiled brat? What the *bleep* happened that I totally missed?

Thanks for the replys

Dear tantosnemsei:

You are going through the same stuf billions of guys and gals have gone through.

Two things
1. She might be also having a crush on you and was trying to check out if you are serious about her.
2. She might have got a feeling that you might not be serious about her going by your track record that your friend's said about you. She may be worried.

If you are really in love with her and want her, give her the space, keep a subtle communication and try to not look too desperate. Send her a gift if possible with a note (not declaring your love) just saying "How good you felt spending time with her."

Leave the rest to destiny.

I am not an expert on the relationship and I am still confused. I hope this works.

Could be you were fun for a while but has worn off, She hopped in bed with you awful fast, maybe she has moved on to someone else.