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Kavya008
Aug 17, 2012, 05:24 AM
Hi, I'm kavya

It's been 4 months since our relationship now. He was one such person who used to love me twice as much as I loved him. He was earlier a very very good friend of mine on this multiplayer site where we met. In fact he did propose to me. Now I am very very much affectionate towards him.

It was few days back when his exam results came and it happened so that he didn't clear all the papers. I understand he's very depressed and apparently he'd be joining his father's business. That is on this Monday after Eid.

At that time when he informed me about this since we aren't of the same caste, education and being independent is very crucial for us and he knows this much better than me. After a day or two after he told me about this, I had to speak about what he’d do in case our parents didn't agree. He didn’t know what to say.

I asked him, "Will u leave me?". He said "you tell me what should I do?”.
Next day on phone he says “I myself am dependent now. And I'm afraid we won't be able to convince our parents.”
Trust me he's a very brave man when he himself said . I am scared for parent’s no "you'll get someone better... " And that "life never stops u should live it.." and all that.. I was terrified! Because he's far away I could hardly do anything. All I could do is cry my heart out “please don't do that.. Please don't leave me... !!!” He was consoling me like a baby.. :(

Later I convinced him telling that 'you concentrate on completing degree first. Regarding marriage.. One day or the other we'll have to tell our parents. I'm not afraid I'll tell them and in spite of us convincing them, they don't agree. Then I won't force you to stay by me... your wish will prevail... ' because neither of us wants to go against parents. He said... "you tell what else can we do.. run away?? That's what most people do. Our own parents well become our enemies and I won't get a good job to look after you either... you tell me what should I do?"

How ever now things are pretty much better. He hasn't anytime denied the fact that he loves me. Now when I say... don't leave me alone anytime... he says.. " no baby no way am I going to leave you alone....". But he doesn't say I love you. All those hugs and kisses. I miss them a lot. He doesn't do those anymore. In fact when he leaves he hardly even says 'bye'

Please help me as to what would you do if you were in my situation.

talaniman
Aug 18, 2012, 02:35 PM
Relax and take one day at a time and see what happens when you both are independent of your parents.