I am maid of honor for friend wedding. I am also hosting her reception at my house. So far, bride to be has not communicated with me about important details. She expects bridal and wedding gifts from me and expects me to pay for hotel rooms for bachelorette party.. Wedding is 5 weeks away.

Whoa, why should YOU have to pay for anything but your own gown and whatever gift you give her?

Put your foot down, now.

So tell her no, unless you are just ultra rich and it is no big deal.

I would sit down and have a heart to heart with her. If you can't afford it, let her know. Typically the bridesmaids and MOH all go in on the bridal shower/bachelorette party if there is more than just you in the bridal party. But she can't expect you to pay for everything including a dress and shoes.

It would be appropriate for you to purchase your own attire for the wedding and cover your own accommodations. It's nice to attend one shower and bring a gift (need not be expensive) and to send a wedding gift (again, needn't be expensive). Otherwise, no other obligations.

Just tell her "no" and if she's insistent that what Maid's of Honor do, tell her, "I misunderstood what was expected when you asked me to do this. Your expectations are way beyond what is done per the way I was raised, and it's way, way beyond my budget so I'm going to have to bow out and let someone else have the honor". Do not apologize.