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frenkie
Aug 15, 2012, 12:35 AM
Hi guys, sorry but this is yet another post about love and someone you just can seem to get your mind off.

Well it all started in may this year, I live in Australia and left for Europe to the country I'm from(Bosnia) for a 2 month holiday with my family, I'm 22 . Got there after the second day I was sitting in a café when all of a sudden I look to the left and I see the most beautifulest girl I've set my eyes on. Are eyes locked very strongly it was amazing :),

So I'm at home the next day sitting on my balcony( I live in apartment blocks) when all off a sudden she walks out on the balcony in the building next to me on the opposite side. I was in shock haha so I quickly waved called her downstairs went for a coffee , things seem pretty well it was fun but for some reason I just wasn't 100% into her, we went out for about 2 3 weeks then I tried to brake it off saying that it would be to hard to maintain a relationship being this far away form each other,

After that the messages didn't stop coming from her say she loved me a lot and just didn't want to be without me, that she had a connection with me that she never had before with someone, I was really confused until my grandmother started reading me a love horoscope haha, it said that there is someone waiting for you and you may not want something now but give it some time and a chance and you will find love, so I said hey why not.

So we started seeing each other again sometimes we had minor arguments (she wanted to see me more), so we stuck with each other and I fell madly in love with this girl,

So the time came where my holiday was up and I left, it was the hardest thing ever I couldn't stop crying nor could she, I told her not to worry I would be back again in 2 3 months, for about a month after I left the love messages that we where sending one another were amazing, I really started to think she is the one. So the month passes then all of a sudden she started acting weird not messaging as much, then she hit me with the news, that she's not the one for me and that I'm a really good person she feels very sad about this and doesn't know what to do then she said that these last few days she realized what I said about us being too far and this wouldn't work, to be true.

I asked her if she was seeing someone else she said she wasn't, if she was that she would tell me and never talk to me again and its not like that. She told me that she is too young and she doesn't want to stuff her self up again in another relationship and that maybe I meet her in the wrong time and if I where still in bosnia it would be different.

She broke up with her ex a while back (they where seeing each other for 9 months)she told me she doesn't love him anymore and it was a hard break up, now she says that she loves me but not in the same way I do.The thing is that she fought for me at one stage when I wanted to break up constant messages and didn't want to let me go, and now I'm trying doing the same thing too I've message her but about 10 times in the last couple of day she hasn't been replying :(

I love her so much I don't know what too do, I want to get on the next flight and go get her back, she's the first girl Ive ever had this kind of feeling for, her mum loves me and so do her sisters, I just don't know what to do being this far away is killing me. She has also deleted her Facebook account.

What should I do :(

joypulv
Aug 15, 2012, 02:44 AM
You HAVE to do what we all do, millions of us around the world - accept the fact that she is gone. She may be half-lying about not seeing someone else (possibly sort of seeing the ex), because that's the number one reason, but also when you are young, absence just kills the ability to wait for someone. Futures depend on school and new jobs and families and the reality is that it just isn't very easy to see each other, and why should young people pine away their best years?
So again, do what we all do - suffer and try to keep busy and surround yourself with friends. Tell them about it, but just once, and ask them to drag you around wherever they go but don't expect you to be much fun for a while. They will take care of you.

frenkie
Aug 15, 2012, 04:10 AM
Thank you joypuly on you reply.

I just want to write her one more message to sum it all up but I just don't know what to say

wolfgangn
Aug 15, 2012, 05:10 AM
My honest opinion is don't send any more text messages to her it will make you feel worse than what you do now. I also concur with joypulv on this it is a long distance relationship that just won't work. You are young and you will find love so put this down to an experience and fun. If you want to text her rather offer her a hand of friendship and her deactivating her Facebook sound more like her blocking you so that you don't see her talking or even enjoying the company of another man. Again put this one down as life experience it might seem like you lost your one true love and I can assure you it won't be the last time you feel like that about someone. So for the moment enjoy what life throws your way

joypulv
Aug 15, 2012, 06:01 AM
Write all you want - in a letter, on paper. Put it away in a drawer. Rewrite it all you want. Put it back in the drawer. It's more for you than for her.

wolfgangn
Aug 15, 2012, 06:05 AM
Just remember we all hurt at some point in our lives it comes down to how we handle it and by being positive will mend you broken heart. Good luck

Homegirl 50
Aug 15, 2012, 07:49 AM
You had a holiday fling and now it's over. She could have been lying to you and was seeing someone else who knows. But she has broken it off and defriended you from face book. Face the facts. Get busy with work school or whatever, friends... thus will soon fade.