First off my ex ànd I have been finished for around six weeks but we have met up four times and had sex and other times when we just talked, we talk all the time on the phone. We have arranged to see each other on our anniversary in five days and the point of this is to sort our relationship out once and for all. Now I love her very much and I want to start a new relationship with her a better one and I've learned from where I went wrong last time round, the problem is she doesn't think she will change her decision and if that is the case I have promised her and myself I will move on and I will but this is not what I really want I want to some day marry this girl and spend my life with her. It was me who was wrong in our relationship I started to get really jealous and didn't realise fully what I was doing till we split up but since then I have been seeing a councillor about my problems and I am doing work on myself to over come this, I know I have a long way to go but I have told her I want to take it slow this time till I'm ready to be living together again you see we lived together since the first day of our relationship but it wasn't like we just met and moved in we knew each other for years and we were in a relationship when we were kids. I have a really special day and night planned for us I want to bring her out to see a movie and a nice resterant afterwards and when we come back to mine I will have rose pettles spread around the house and candles lighting some nice music and I got her to gifts one a book called what I love about you book where I have to fill in the blanks its really nice and I bought her a white gold chain with a purple heart shaped gem I know she will love it. I know from research women make big decisions on feelings rather then logic like men so how can I show her I really want to change and never want to behave like I did again with just words, I know in my heart me and her are meant to be together so how can I show her this how can I really make her see that things will be different this time?? Please help I only have five days left readers and thanks

Do you really think the relationship is going to change? Sure it might for a few weeks or maybe a couple months but what's going to happen when you let your guard down and get comfortable with each other again. Jealousy is a very tough emotion to control, it's who you are and it's rooted deeper into your character than you may think.

Honestly I think you should save yourself and her the heartache and start moving on now. There's other girls out there, maybe you'll find one that doesn't give you a reason to make you jealous all the time.

Do you really think the relationship is going to change? Sure it might for a few weeks or maybe a couple months but what's going to happen when you let your guard down and get comfortable with eachother again. Jealousy is a very tough emotion to control, it's who you are and it's rooted deeper into your character than you may think.

Honestly I think you should save yourself and her the heartache and start moving on now. There's other girls out there, maybe you'll find one that doesn't give you a reason to make you jealous all the time.


Agreed - these two are not good together for a variety of reasons.

- And I think he's trying to buy her.