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ShannonB
Aug 11, 2012, 07:15 AM
I am currently dating a registered sex offender, her father is taking me to court for custody because of this. Can this swing the decision if my boyfriend poses no threat and is in compliance with all of his regulations

JudyKayTee
Aug 11, 2012, 07:19 AM
I am currently dating a registered sex offender, her father is taking me to court for custody because of this. Can this swing the decision if my boyfriend poses no threat and is in compliance with all of his regulations


I'm a little confused - you are dating a registered sex offender and "her father" is taking you to Court. The sex offender is female? You are talking about your child? Something else?

This depends on the level of the sex offender and what restrictions are on the offender.

It's a good argument for someone attempting to get custody, though, and I'm sure you realize that. Whether it's a winning argument depends on the type of offense and the restrictions.

ShannonB
Aug 11, 2012, 07:32 AM
My boyfriend is a registered sex offender whose crime was lewd and lascivious with a 14 year old. This was in 2002. We have been dating for one month. My daughters father found out and came to my residence and took my daughter stating he was concerned for her safety. He also petitioned for custody because of this. My boyfriend is in complete compliance with his rules and regulations and does not live with me. Does this help clarify - sorry for the confusion

JudyKayTee
Aug 11, 2012, 07:44 AM
My boyfriend is a registered sex offender whose crime was lewd and lascivious with a 14 year old. This was in 2002. We have been dating for one month. My daughters father found out and came to my residence and took my daughter stating he was concerned for her safety. He also petitioned for custody because of this. My boyfriend is in complete compliance with his rules and regulations and does not live with me. Does this help clarify - sorry for the confusion



What do the rules/regulation say about contact with children? Can he have contact, can he not have contact? Contact may not be allowed.

Honestly, if I had to choose between my daughter and a man I've known for one month I'd choose my daughter.

I would guess that your daughter's father is going to argue that you didn't show good judgment, even if you break up with the boyfriend.

cdad
Aug 11, 2012, 07:51 AM
How old is your boyfiriend and how old is your daughter? Him being registered normally would mean he is not allowed around children.

excon
Aug 11, 2012, 08:01 AM
My boyfriend is a registered sex offender whose crime was lewd and lascivious with a 14 year old. This was in 2002.... Does this help clarifyHello S,

It clarifies it for me.. To this point, I was hoping that your boyfriend got caught whacking off in movie theater, or was busted for peeing in an alley... But no... He RAPED a little girl.

If I was the father, I wouldn't let this guy around my child. I believe I'd WIN custody in court because of your faulty judgment. If YOU want to date him, that's YOUR business... But, you have an OBLIGATION toward your children NOT to put them at risk, and that's EXACTLY what you're doing.

excon

AK lawyer
Aug 11, 2012, 08:28 AM
... My daughters father found out and came to my residence and took my daughter stating he was concerned for her safety. ...

Do you currently have court-ordered custody? Did the father violate the terms of this order?

excon
Aug 11, 2012, 08:36 AM
Do you currently have court-ordered custody? Did the father violate the terms of this order?Hello lawyer:

I couldn't get past the child rape, so I missed the part about the father TAKING his daughter. GOOD for him. I would have done the SAME thing...

I suspect he DID violate he written word's of the custody agreement... That would be, of course, unless there are words in there that require the mother to PROTECT her children, which she clearly ISN'T. But, even IF those words aren't there, they're certainly UNDERSTOOD.

I hope the father filed for an immediate custody change..

excon

Fr_Chuck
Aug 11, 2012, 08:41 AM
Several things

1. you appear to have allowed him ( child fathers) to take the child from your home and keep the child in his.

2. you admit that this persons is a guilty and the crime involved a 14 year old girl.
** you did not say how old boyfriend was at the time, but we know he was over 18.

Yes this will cause most judges to look into the favor of the father, The father saw and precieved a current danger, the father acted on it by removing the child from your home. You did not resist or demand child be returned.

You appear to not be willing to stop seeing a man you have only dated a month, to prevent this court action.

I would say the child's father has a very good case and will most likely win, but no way to know till it is over

AK lawyer
Aug 11, 2012, 11:26 AM
Hello lawyer:

I couldn't get past the child rape, so I missed the part about the father TAKING his daughter. GOOD for him. I would have done the SAME thing...
...

I had to leave before I could finish my train of thought.

It may have been a good thing for him to do, but if he violated custody terms, he probably did it illegally.