I met him ¨A¨ two years ago, when I first got into the US... we started talking as friends, he was interested in me from day one but I wasn´t into him like that, I admired him and liked spending time with him though. I started dating this guy, who happened to be a member of his family but I didn´t know it until it was too late. He turned out to be a player and I was devastated for not paying attention to the men who was offering me the world. Time passed, A and I started talking again and after a year of knowing each other we started going out.

Everything was perfect for the first two months, until I found out he was dating he's roommate at the same time, the girl and I found out on his birthday. That broke my heart, he asked me to give him some time for him to fix the situation and show me that I was the one he truly loved. He chased me for another three months, but I was afraid of trusting him again, so he started seeing this other girl ¨B¨. I told him to make up his mind or... so yes I forgave him and we wen´t back together.

No one understood our relationship, starting from my family since he is a lot older than me and because of him being an artist. We started having problems because of that, and also we had some trust issues. I had to go back to my country to take care of a family thing, got to see old friends and an exboyfriend, ¨A¨ thought It was disrespectful for me to hang out with the ex and he was really pissed. So when I got back he was upset, just like I was with him because I saw some pics of him together with the girl ¨B¨on fb.

We found the way to forget about it and keep on working on our relationship. Everything got better and better. After a few months, he left on a trip, I went to a party stayed late and for not taking the train all the way back to where I live, I spent the night over at ¨A¨´s bestfriend´s boyfriend with another mutual friend. Nothing happened, but we promised to keep it a secret to not get in trouble. We did got in trouble, he broke up with me, he thought I was cheating on him. My best friend wrote him a message telling him how the story went and after a few weeks we were back together.

After all of the struggling, I felt more attached to him than ever before, I tried on pleasing him on everything he wanted, and in the other hand he was acting cold and indiferent. I stayed with him although everything was against it. So after a month, we went for dinner and I asked him if he was just living in the moment or if he saw a future in our relationship... he got very upset with me, saying I wasn´t in the position to be asking for anything, before he felt proud holding my hand but now he was ashamed. That I needed to give him time to heal old wounds and that I had to demonstrate that I wanted to be with him, and stay with him for at least 6-8 months to see if we could have stability together. He took me home, we didn´t talk for two weeks.

Destiny ran it course and we bumped into each other. We talked, he said people get tired, that I had too many ups and downs, and that I needed professional help. Can you believe that? I was trying to explain that in order for me to invest in the relationship I needed to know if we were in the same page, and that I wasn´t asking him to come back with me (Trying to be strong here).

So it has been a month now since the breakup happened, I haven´t tried to get in contact with him and neither has he. I was a mess at home, not being able to find a job and heartbroken, but I never letted him see me in my weekness. I decided to take all of my stuff and go back to my country, nobody knows I left, only my parents and a good friend of him and I.

He´ll be coming in a week to our country for a few days for a business matter. I love him very much, and I know he loves me as well, he´s just acting proud. I feel like this could be our last chance to get back together for good. I just don´t know what to do. Our friend is picking him up at the airport and will be taking care of him while he´s here. I just don´t know if I should:

a) Sorprise him or invite him for dinner.
b) Let him find out trough our friend that I´m here and that I came to stay so he can realize that he could lose me forever.
c) There´s a party that I was invited to, he´ll be there. Go and act like I don´t care anymore. Just be nice.
d) Stay away from everything, and let him go.


Any advice guys?

You probably won't like this answer but let him go. You guys have had so many ups and downs I think there will be too much resentment and bitterness from both ends to have a successful relationship. It has dramatics written all over it and you don't want to put yourself through that. I did the on and off again relationship deal for a year and a half. Never again...