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Lisa98
Aug 9, 2012, 09:59 PM
I am 14+ and I have realized that I had been attracted to girls ever since I was young. I have a crush on another 16 year old girl and we are close buddies. We love talking to each other I started to like her ever since the day I saw her. She's gorgeous, charming and really attractive. In fact, I have never been so attracted to anyone before. I have a strong urge to tell her about how I feel for her every time we meet but something always stops me from doing it. I afraid that she might only like me as a friend but not interested to be in a relationship. And the biggest fear: She is probably straight. I remember the other time when we chatted about a girl who is very boyish. And she commented: "Do you know she has a girlfriend? That's just gross... She is weird and ruled by weird hormones" Hearing this made me want to keep my feelings as a secret. Moreover, we treat each other more like sisters and share secrets with each other. She does not know that I am attracted to girls. I can't bear looking at her everyday without saying how I feel. I am so confused. What should I do?

Lyss16
Aug 9, 2012, 10:12 PM
Its okay to be gay... sorry. But if you really want to know ask her do you rather to be single or in a relationship and would you rather go out with boys or girls just asking.
You may feel very embarrassed but if you truly trust her to keep your secret then its your choice to share your true feelings for her its called bravery and courageously and if she says she's Guy to then you'll feel good about it.

Homegirl 50
Aug 9, 2012, 10:28 PM
Sounds like she is straight and probably would not appreciate you telling her of your crush. When you are dealing with a straight person, you need to respect their straightness. Respect the friendship if you want to keep it. Stop spending so much time with her.
You don't have to express your feeling to everybody.

Lisa98
Aug 10, 2012, 12:18 AM
Its okay to be gay.....sorry. but if you really want to know ask her do you rather to be single or in a relationship and would you rather go out with boys or girls just asking.
You may feel very embarrassed but if you truly trust her to keep your secret then its your choice to share your true feelings for her its called bravery and courageously and if she says she's Guy to then you'll feel good about it.

Thanks, that's very helpful. :) I feel better.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 10, 2012, 05:41 AM
If she is straight and is grossed out by this, you may well ruin your friendship with her.

If you tell her you think you may be gay, not that you like her that way, see how she accepts it.

Lyss16
Aug 10, 2012, 03:17 PM
Your welcome and good luck. :)