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issuesnow737373
Aug 5, 2012, 01:09 AM
So, I've been with my girlfriend for about seven months now and basically I've come to realize she is a compulsive lier. Doesn't matter what she basically lies to me about every thing, and I'm not sure what to do there are some serious things I've asked her and she lied to me I found out the truth and all I asked was for her to be completely honest with me and I would be OK with it, but I did say if I found out she had lied to me and hide things from me that I was gone. Well a month goes by and I find out that she has lied again, being who I am I give her another chance. Again about three weeks goes by and again I find more lies. Im lost and really hurt I haven't felt like this sense my father dropped dead almost two years ago when I was 21. What should I do, she doesn't want to lose me she says and cry's and cry's on the phone, I'm split I want to leave but I want to give her another chance. But is it worth it or will she just keep on hurting me?

C0bra_M3nace
Aug 5, 2012, 04:53 AM
The foundation of a relationship is communication, trust and honesty. Without one of those, it's really hard to have a healthy relationship.

You can stay with her all you want but she hasn't changed yet, so do you really think she will? Where are you going to draw the line and stop being lied to. Stop being pushed around by tears and man up.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 5, 2012, 06:06 AM
So she knows that you also lie, you said one more time and you would be gone, she has no reason to tell truth figures you will stay, anyway, since that is what you are doing.

So why did you not just leave if this was a big issue like you said you would

Leave, she has to know there are results for her actions.

talaniman
Aug 5, 2012, 04:49 PM
If you aren't man enough to mean what you say don't blame her! You should have been long gone. Hurt feelings, or not. Leave and don't look back!

Wondergirl
Aug 5, 2012, 05:01 PM
What puts her in a position of thinking she needs to lie? Are you pinning her to the wall about stuff?

maddy6
Aug 5, 2012, 05:18 PM
If this is what she's doing in the beginning of the relationship the lies are only going to get worse. You deserve better than someone who doesn't respect you enough to be honest. If you stay in this relationship now, just remember it was your decision next time she lies and do not complain. Your eyes are open. You choose... Choice 1 - A proven liar, OR Choice 2 - stop wasting time and move on to a potentially better future and a potentially better relationship.

clareAD2000
Aug 6, 2012, 12:41 AM
Well if the things she lied about were really important to you then there is no point being with her, if your relationship is just lies then its nothing.
Its your choice, but if your going to give her one more chance be serious...
Tell her this is your last chance and if you ever lie to me again we are over...
Make a promise to yourself... you must respect yourself... so make sure u respect yourself and do you think you want to be hurt over and over again... is she really worth that... the answer is no