Hey... my friends think I cut myself for attention when really they have NO idea and some of them are doing it because they think its cool... Does anyone else cut themselves if so why

You cut yourself?

You cut yourself?

Yes :/

Why?? You told us how mature you are with watching your sibs and shopping for them and working two jobs and going to school. What satisfaction would cutting have for someone so together and responsible?

Why???? You told us how mature you are with watching your sibs and shopping for them and working two jobs and going to school. What satisfaction would cutting have for someone so together and responsible?
I'm only 13 I shouldn't have to do all those things when I do it all d stress is gone and I'm on my own and I have ny own problems in life its not perfect

Well, cutting yourself certainly messes up your life a lot!! You want even more problems?

Well, cutting yourself certainly messes up your life a lot!!! You want even more problems?

No it doesn't mess up my life a lot or at all and I'm getting help for it so its not a problem I just think I don't deserve to be here alive

If you are getting help for it, it must be messing up your life somehow.

If you are getting help for it, it must be messing up your life somehow.
But its not
I know its wrong to do it and I want to stop doing it but its easier said than done

But you are such a strong person...

But you are such a strong person....

How would you know

You told us so.

You told us so.

No I never wrote those words

You go to school.
You care for younger siblings in place of your mother.
You buy them clothes.
You work two jobs.
You have already had a number of romantic relationships with young men.

You go to school.
You care for younger siblings in place of your mother.
You buy them clothes.
You work two jobs.
You have already had a number of romantic relationships with young men.

So that's not sayn I'm a strong person it could mean I'm a slut I'm caring I'm responsible and I have money u can b all those things and not be strong like you can act it but that's it

So it's an act?

So it's an act?

What is

Your good behavior. Your strength. ("So that's not sayn I'm a strong person it could mean I'm a slut I'm caring I'm responsible and I have money u can b all those things and not be strong like you can act it but thats it")

Your good behavior.

No why would that be an act

You said: "So that's not sayn I'm a strong person it could mean I'm a slut I'm caring I'm responsible and I have money u can b all those things and not be strong like you can act it but thats it"

You said: "So that's not sayn I'm a strong person it could mean I'm a slut I'm caring I'm responsible and I have money u can b all those things and not be strong like you can act it but thats it"

Yea I mean u act lyk a strong person when all u want to do is cry

So it's all an act with you?

Some people do it for the same reason people do drugs - the rush. Other people do it for attention. Some people do it for the same reason people get tattoos - They like how it looks. If you think I'm crazy, look up scarification. Everyone has their own reason.

Just to answer your question, I did when I was back in high school, to be honest I first did it to get attention as my friends were doing it, very stupid of me because after awhile, (still during high school) I started using it as an easy-quick and simple stress and emotional release for myself, for problems like. When I was a reason for a couple breaking up, to the stress of parents arguing, being yelled at for no good reason.
But the most recent and last time that I had done 'that' was because I always "hide" my emotions, not sharing my issues which had caused it to build up, and at this point all it needed was a stick of a pin and it will explode and that's what exactly happened, where I cut myself 3 times that pierced all my skins levels (not sure if it's a real thing, but you get the point), and was rushed to hospital and nearly institutionalized.

just to answer your question, i did when i was back in high school, to be honest i first did it to get attention as my friends were doing it, very stupid of me because after awhile, (still during high school) I started using it as an easy-quick and simple stress and emotional release for myself, for problems like. When i was a reason for a couple breaking up, to the stress of parents arguing, being yelled at for no good reason.
But the most recent and last time that I had done 'that' was because I always "hide" my emotions, not sharing my issues which had caused it to build up, and at this point all it needed was a stick of a pin and it will explode and thats what exactly happened, where I cut myself 3 times that pierced all my skins levels (not sure if its a real thing, but you get the point), and was rushed to hospital and nearly institutionalized.
You don't have to tell me but do u have scars

Some people do it for the same reason people do drugs - the rush. Other people do it for attention. Some people do it for the same reason people get tattoos - They like how it looks. If you think I'm crazy, look up scarification. Everyone has their own reason.
I like your reply

Some do it because it is the only thing they think they can control in their lives.

Some do it because it is the only thing they think they can control in their lives.
That reply I also reli like

Quote "you don't have to tell me but do u have scars"

Yep, 3 of them

Quote "you don't have to tell me but do u have scars"

yep, 3 of them
Are you proud of them?. I alri have scars and I'm proud of them

Are you proud of them? ...I alri have scars and I'm proud of them

To be honest, yeah I am abit proud of them, cause now since they are there, they are a constant reminder of what I've been through and how I handled it (which wasn't a good idea), but it lead me to the mentally of not giving a damn of what people really say or do and a chance to improve myself since I'm still alive and all

to be honest, yeah i am abit proud of them, cause now since they are there, they are a constant reminder of what i've been through and how I handled it (which wasnt a good idea), but it lead me to the mentally of not giving a damn of what people really say or do and a chance to improve myself since i'm still alive n all
Yea like some people say its nt ri to be proud of dem bu it is because it reminds you of how stupid and confused you were when you were young ha
It's good not to care what people think of you because you are who you are

yea like some ppl say its nt ri to b proud of dem bu it is coz it reminds ya of how stupid and confused you were when u were young ha
It's good not to care what ppl think of ya coz u are who u are


You are on an adult board - either use English instead of text speak or I'm going to ask that your posts be removed.

For a person who doesn't care what other people think you're sure on AMHD explaining yourself a lot.

You are on an adult board - either use English instead of text speak or I'm going to ask that your posts be removed.

For a person who doesn't care what other people think you're sure on AMHD explaining yourself a lot.
Yea because you ask a lot of questions and I really hate being judged but I don't let it get to me

Yea because you ask a lot of questions and I really hate being judged but I don't let it get to me
I'm a mod and a site editor and was horrified at that texting you did -- especially since I KNOW you can type proper English. Judy is right. I or another mod will remove texting if it happens again.

We are all judged by what we do and how we act. You are judging Judy when you said what you did about her.

I'm a mod and a site editor and was horrified at that texting you did -- especially since I KNOW you can type proper English. Judy is right. I or another mod will remove texting if it happens again.

We are all judged by what we do and how we act. You are judging Judy when you said what you did about her.
Eh what did I say about her?

eh what did I say about her?


You are proud of your scars. You are encouraging other people to cut to prove they are strong or survivors... or something else.

You never understand a single response you get.

I think you're a troll, an attention-grabbing troll.

(I know, "what's a troll?")

eh what did I say about her?
"you ask a lot of questions"

That's what we do here. That's why this is such a terrific site. We ask questions and we care about the people (not "ppl") who visit or become members.

You are proud of your scars. You are encouraging other people to cut to prove they are strong or survivors ... or something else.

You never understand a single response you get.

I think you're a troll, an attention-grabbing troll.

(I know, "what's a troll?")

No I don't mean to be encouraging other people to cut to prove they are strong or survivors or something... I am not an attention grabbing troll... I don't want attention I don't like attention and I don't need attention

No I don't mean to be encouraging other people to cut to prove they are strong or survivors or something .... I am not an attention grabbing troll ... I don't want attention I don't like attention and I don't need attention


Then stop posting.

"you ask a lot of questions"

That's what we do here. That's why this is such a terrific site. We ask questions and we care about the people (not "ppl") who visit or become members.
Them I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.

em I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.
I changed "ye" to "you," by the way.

You said that directly to Judy.

How about you use your life experience and the good things you have learned to help other teens/kids who post on the site. Don't go on the legal or medical boards, but write good English (set a good example for others), and do your best to help someone else. I'll keep an eye on you and let you know if your advice isn't the best, but will praise you if it is good advice. What do you think?

I changed "ye" to "you," by the way.

You said that directly to Judy.

How about you use your life experience and the good things you have learned to help other teens/kids who post on the site. Don't go on the legal or medical boards, but write good English (set a good example for others), and do your best to help someone else. I'll keep an eye on you and let you know if your advice isn't the best, but will praise you if it is good advice. What do you think?
Em yeah okay but I didn't mean to say it directly to Judy

Yes, punctuation matters. In fact, I have here a bag of commas I am now giving to you. I want you to use them faithfully. If you run out, let me know and I will give you a new bag. Since you are so nice, I won't charge you. They are free just for you. Okay?

I want to see commas in your posts -- and put them in the right places, or I will take your bag away and give you a time out in the comma factory.

Yes, punctuation matters. In fact, I have here a bag of commas I am now giving to you. I want you to use them faithfully. If you run out, let me know and I will give you a new bag. Since you are so nice, I won't charge you. They are free just for you. Okay?

I want to see commas in your posts -- and put them in the right places, or I will take your bag away and give you a time out in the comma factory.
Okay... That sounds like something my English teacher would say

Yea because you ask a lot of questions and I really hate being judged but I don't let it get to me

You don't want questions, you don't want to be judged, but you started this thread about cutting, you posted that you're proud of your cutting scars. We didn't ask you to write about this, you chose to, but now we're judging and asking too many questions?

Why did you start this thread? I can't see a single reason other than you wanting attention. What did you expect, answer wise, when you posted this question?

Sorry, but I agree with your friends.

You don't want questions, you don't want to be judged, but you started this thread about cutting, you posted that you're proud of your cutting scars. We didn't ask you to write about this, you chose to, but now we're judging and asking too many questions?

Why did you start this thread? I can't see a single reason other than you wanting attention. What did you expect, answer wise, when you posted this question?

Sorry, but I agree with your friends.

Okay. That's your opinion.

Do you self harm... I've scratched a load of my skin of before doing self harming and I've got scars on girl who I thought was one of my mates started trying to do what I had done and it really pissed me of I couldn't tel anyone and I just had to cope... in the end I made sure that whatever happened I couldn't let her get to me I would look down at her whenever she tried to imitate me for attention and now she tries to be nice to me, I hope your okay and be the stronger person... look back at what you've done and make yourself believe your much stronger than that..

Do you self harm...I've scratched a load of my skin of before doing self harming and I've got scars on girl who I thought was one of my mates started trying to do what I had done and it really pissed me of I couldn't tel anyone and I just had to cope...in the end I made sure that whatever happened I couldn't let her get to me I would look down at her whenever she tried to imitate me for attention and now she tries to be nice to me, I hope your okay and be the stronger person...look back at what you've done and make yourself believe your much stronger than that..

Yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.

yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.


I thought you said you stopped - ?

I thought you said you stopped - ?
You notice, though, she is typing complete words now (not texting) and using punctuation. She has come a long way as far as that goes. How can we get her to stop cutting? Or can we?

You notice, though, she is typing complete words now (not texting) and using punctuation. She has come a long way as far as that goes. How can we get her to stop cutting? or can we?
Sorry for interrupting your conversation,but there's no way to get me to stop cutting. It happens over time. Therapy is really all that can stop me.

Sorry for interrupting your conversation,but there's no way to get me to stop cutting. It happens over time. Therapy is really all that can stop me.
You do know why you cut, right?

You do know why you cut, right?

No. I'm working on it.

You can stop today.

You can stop today.

It's not that easy.

Yes, it is. All you have to do is substitute another behavior for the cutting.

Yes, it is. All you have to do is substitute another behavior for the cutting.
It's easier said than done. What do you mean by "another behavior for cutting."

I used to have a horrible habit that was becoming visible to people and I couldn't hide it any longer. I hated myself and was terribly embarrassed and even ashamed when people would mention it and sort of back away from me in horror. I'm a problem solver, so I thought to myself, "This has to stop. How can I stop it?"

I thought about all the good things I do with my hands (what I used to use for this bad thing when I was alone). I love to type and be on the computer. I made a pact with myself. No more doing this bad thing, and every time I had the urge to do it, I would go over to the computer and use my hands to type and work on one of my stories or type some emails to friends or whatever--but I would type, not do the bad thing.

It worked! It was a drag at first, but I had promised myself I would stop with the bad thing, so I hauled my body over to the computer a lot at first. Over about two weeks it got easier and easier to just not do the bad thing without going to the computer. Total time to quit the bad thing was about a month. It was hard work to stick to my promise to myself. Meanwhile, I got lots of typing done!

Sounds like a good idea. I do something to stop me, but it doesn't work all the time.

Hey dear,
Please get yourself checked for Bipolar disorder.. don't want to sound rude..

hey dear,
Please get yourself checked for Bipolar disorder..don't wanna sound rude..

What's bipolar disorder?

What's bipolar disorder?


Bipolar Disorder Center: Symptoms, Types, Tests, and Treatments (http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/default.htm) -

Samaya forgot who he's talking to -

The substitute thing has to be something you really enjoy doing. One therapist friend told me to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it when I had the urge do the bad thing. Pffffft, that didn't work at all.

For instance, if you bite your nails, start taking care of them and wearing polish and getting your nails done. That often will work. My older son is autistic and, when he was younger, used to flap his hands when he got excited. It's called stimming. He learned to substitute a more socially acceptable behavior in place of the hand flapping, so kids wouldn't make fun of him.

Can you think of how this can work for you? Think of a better substitute than what you use now?

The substitute thing has to be something you really enjoy doing. One therapist friend told me to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it when I had the urge do the bad thing. Pffffft, that didn't work at all.

For instance, if you bite your nails, start taking care of them and wearing polish and getting your nails done. That often will work. My older son is autistic and, when he was younger, used to flap his hands when he got excited. It's called stimming. He learned to substitute a more socially acceptable behavior in place of the hand flapping, so kids wouldn't make fun of him.

Can you think of how this can work for you? think of a better substitute than what you use now?

Oh,I get it now. Thanks

hey dear,
Please get yourself checked for Bipolar disorder..don't wanna sound rude..

Okay. It's okay,its not being rude. You were honest so,thanks and I think I will get myself checked for it.

The substitute thing has to be something you really enjoy doing. One therapist friend told me to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it when I had the urge do the bad thing. Pffffft, that didn't work at all.


Sort of off topic but a friend of mine quit smoking this way - "I'd like a cigarette" "Snap" "I don't want a cigarette"

You doing bad things? Never!

Question - if OP sees a therapist would the therapist take a look at bipolar?

yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.

If I'm correct your thirteen, so am I... I knoe what your going through and although I have no idea hod savere your situation is I know how it feels to have people know you as a selfharmer and an attention seeker... if you explained to your friends or to your closest friend your situation maybe they might help you out?

Sort of off topic but a friend of mine quit smoking this way - "I'd like a cigarette" "Snap" "I don't want a cigarette"
It depends on the compulsive behavior and the client's suggestibility. The snapping can work for cutters too. It didn't work for me, for my problem.

You doing bad things? Never!
Just ONE bad thing. I was upset over Princess Diana's death, was at that time.

Question - if OP sees a therapist would the therapist take a look at bipolar?
Yes, if the client asks about it. Or if signs are there. Bipolar usually manifests itself around 19-21, during early adulthood.

If I'm correct your thirteen, so am I...I knoe what your going through and although I have no idea hod savere your situation is I know how it feels to have people know you as a selfharmer and an attention seeker...if you explained to your friends or to your closest friend your situation maybe they might help you out?


Got to tell you - VERY impressive post. 13 years old and you express yourself so well?

Amazing - I honestly am impressed by you.

Got to tell you - VERY impressive post. 13 years old and you express yourself so well?

Amazing - I honestly am
impressed by you.

Thanks;D only. Because I know how it feels and no one should fel that way

If I'm correct your thirteen, so am I...I knoe what your going through and although I have no idea hod savere your situation is I know how it feels to have people know you as a selfharmer and an attention seeker...if you explained to your friends or to your closest friend your situation maybe they might help you out?

It's nice to know that your 13. It's not so easy to explain it. The words that I want to say to them just don't come out.

It's nice to know that your 13. It's not so easy to explain it. The words that I want to say to them just don't come out.
What do you mean?

What do you mean?

I think she means that it's nice to have someone here age on the site, someone that may understand her better because we don't.

Funny thing is, you don't seem to understand her either. ;)

Oohhhh ooops, ngl, no one will understand the reasons for swlfharm unless they are in the position.. when I did it I did it with mainly anger so I had managed to scratch through a few layers of skin and not even feel the pain where I was just too upset and angry only when my hand swelled up and started weeping did I realise how I was greatly affected by the situation that turned me to self inflicted harm