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daniigurl
Jul 31, 2012, 10:42 AM
My partner and I have been together since November of 2011. We used to have sex very frequently and he'd enjoy getting me off, least until about February or march and then he's just gotten lazy it seems. I don't understand it. I enjoy making him finish, and I haven't been with a man (boy, rather) since my teenage years who's been this way, my previous partner was very into the idea, and kept very much on top of it, so it's been a huge adjustment with my partner now, when I ask him what gives he tells me the hormones from me being pregnant just make me taste different and that he doesn't like it. Okay, fine, whatever. But there are other ways and means of making a woman finish. How do I get him into the idea again? I know there's that whole stigma where guys like to believe that it takes forever for a woman to finish, but it really only takes me about 15-20 minutes :/ Part of me has just been waiting this whole pregnancy thing out, but I really am just tired of the sexual frustration and lack of compassion on his part. I am trying to not insult him by bringing it up, certainly it isn't that he is incapable, as he's done it numerous times before, it's that he is just choosing not to now.

Fr_Chuck
Jul 31, 2012, 10:50 AM
Many men have a real "pregnancy" issue when it comes to sex. If it was my wife, the answer would be easy, build him up and then don't finish, and say, that is how I feel, think about it.

daniigurl
Jul 31, 2012, 10:56 AM
I feel like that approach may backfire completely. He says it's just the taste, being pregnant changes so much about your body. Though we really don't have sex as much either, and upon being asked why that is, he says he's just afraid of hurting me again (there was an incident when I was about five months along where I started bleeding heavily, everything turned out to be okay, just was too rough) I rather enjoy oral sex, as I know he does, as well. And I've pretty much stopped that altogether for him except for rare occasions, because it just isn't fair on my part. However, if this issue continues to occur after our son is born, I don't know how I'm going to handle it. Might have to try that approach or cut sex out completely until he stops being selfish. I really just don't understand. I get a lot more into sex after I've finished and it's more enjoyable for the person I'm with when I'm more into it, as I assume it'd be with any man after their partner has finished. It almost makes me feel like he just doesn't like to.