So this is what happened. We were dating for almost 4 years. Then she caught me lying one day, told her that I had to go to work but in reality I went out with my nephew. Prior to this we had a bumpy relationship for the last 2 years. She broke up with me after the lie. Said she never wanted to talk to me again. She called me two days later just to say goodbye. She said she wanted to keep in touch in near future I said no way. She said to get help either way, so when I have another girlfriend one day I won’t make the same mistakes. However when I asked her if she was seeing anyone or planning to meeting someone she said no that she was doing that for herself.

Two days later it hit me I truly loved this girl. So I call her back and we talk, I told her I would get help and change, so she said we would talk again 1 year later. I was still sad, so I text her the next day and now she says we will talk in 6 months exactly again and be friends, but says I need truly must get help. After that she said she wouldn’t talk to me anymore until 6 months are up and I work on what I got to work on (getting help) said and I quote "I will always love/care for you talk to you in 6 months =) (smiley face)". When I asked her if I’d be able to see her again she said lol I don’t know maybe, and furthermore was doing this for herself, but she said she wasn’t looking to date anyone for a looong time.

Do I still have hope of conquering her again?! Need help I’m 2 weeks in, and I’m getting help from psychologist for all other issues. But I still miss her, we were each other’s first, do I still have a chance if I truly change?

oh by the way she had already broken up with me for a day 1 year before this happened but I told her I would change and I didn't =( she was truly in love with me sweetest girl ever would take me out to eat and to movies, just that I was too vested in my job that I didn't have the energys to fully be sweet and demonstrate my affection... my best friends mom recommended that wait and she might contact me before the 6 months are up but I don't know I need some more advise =(

If anybody could give advice it be much appreciated

You see, I don't want the details of what you need help for but there is no way for us to know what you did that was so bad and needs so much help. This would maybe have a factor in whether she's ever going to take you back.

As far as we can see, you lied to her once... is this what is so bad that you need help for? No, I doubt it. Without us knowing, nobody can even guess... and even then, it will only be a guess as we can't know what is going on inside her head.

As far as I'm concerned, once there's a break up, you might as well figure it's over. Even if you do get back together, chances are that it won't last. You're probably better off forgetting about her and moving on.

Well my issues were because of depressed memories from my dad which caused me to not be there all the time for her, but I'm getting them fixed now and reinforcing positive thoughts at all times... once I truly change I'm planning on being there for her and making her the happiest girl, do I still have a shot though?

do i still have a shot though?

I've already told you what I think.


...and even then, it will only be a guess as we can't know what is going on inside her head.


Nobody here knows her or what she's thinking. How could we possibly know if you have a chance?

Do what you can to help yourself and hope for the best.