My son is four now and me and his mom haven't been together since day one. I've tried being there for him but she makes it impossible. So I haven't seen him for a year know. We just finished going to court for child support and the judge ordered me to pay $600 dollars a month I've never refused to pay but now I don't know how I'm going to pay my rent and all my bills I only make 10.00 dollars a hour, she makes 4,000 a month. Know she said she's going to get full custody and there's nothing I can do cause I haven't seen him in years she's saying I've never seen him. Can she get full custody? What can I do? I feel like my lifes not mine anymore...

My son is four now and me and his mom haven't been together since day one. I've tryed being there for him but she makes it impossible. so i haven't seen him for a year know. we just finished going to court for child support and the judge ordered me to pay $600 dollars a month i've never refused to pay but now i dont know how im going to pay my rent and all my bills i only make 10.00 dollars a hour, she makes 4,000 a month. know she said she's going to get full custody and theres nothing i can do cause i haven't seen him in years she's saying i've never seen him. can she get full custody? what can i do? i feel like my lifes not mine anymore...


It sounds like she has full custody. Did you ask for visitation? If you have ordered visitation and she doesn't let you see him, take her to Court for violating the Order. If you don't have visitation, get it.

How did you get ordered to pay such high support? What State?

How are you paying such a high amount a month? ( I'm from England and for 1 child you pay £21. Something like that.

How are you paying such a high amount a month? ( im from England and for 1 child you pay £21. Something like that.

21 Pounds is about $33/US - how does anyone support a child on $33 a month?

21 Pounds is about $33/US - how does anyone support a child on $33 a month?

Sorry, a week.

Sorry, a week.


How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?

How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?

I have no idea.. I should know but.. I just am not interested. I get what he's told to give me.
And carry on.
I am finacially stable in life, I work around being a mum
Not on benefits
Just my sons dad pays that for my son.

Sorry this isn't my post I just thought the amount was high that's all.

How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?

"...
The basic assessment is based on a percentage of the payer’s net income (after tax, National Insurance Contributions and pension contributions) at 15%, 20% or 25% for 1, 2 or 3 or more children respectively (“basic rate”).
... "
Child Maintenance through the CSA (http://www.alternativefamilylaw.co.uk/en/cohabitation/child-maintenance.htm#5)

Methinks Aimee doesn't quite know what she's talking about. :)

"...
The basic assessment is based on a percentage of the payer’s net income (after tax, National Insurance Contributions and pension contributions) at 15%, 20% or 25% for 1, 2 or 3 or more children respectively (“basic rate”).
..."
Child Maintenance through the CSA (http://www.alternativefamilylaw.co.uk/en/cohabitation/child-maintenance.htm#5)

Methinks Aimee doesn't quite know what she's talking about. :)


Well.. As I said.. I don't know ;)
I just get on with my own life and that's what CSA take from him and into my bank.
I know that :D
Please.. Be nice :)

Well.. As i said.. I dont know ;)
I just get on with my own life and thats what CSA take from him and into my bank.
I know that :D
Please.. Be nice :)

Sorry. I just call it like it is.

I'm thinking that somehow you are not getting the child maintenance to which you are entitled.

Sorry. I just call it like it is.

I'm thinking that somehow you are not getting the child maintenance to which you are entitled.

Really? :/ he gets something like £800 a month after tax I think I may not be sure!
And I'm told I should be getting £21 a week for 1 child.

Well.. As i said.. I dont know ;)
I just get on with my own life and thats what CSA take from him and into my bank.
I know that :D
Please.. Be nice :)


You are getting shortchanged - this kind of revelation is what happens when you come on and question an answer on the legal boards.

You are getting shortchanged - this kind of revelation is what happens when you come on and question an answer on the legal boards.

I was only asking about that amount he has to pay. I didn't want to say wrong or right.
As you can tell.. I have no idea about this kind of thing.. Seems everyone else gets more or better than I do.
How is this fair! Hah. Never mind as I said I get on with my own life and bring my boy up alone

I was only asking about that amount he has to pay. I didnt want to say wrong or right.
As you can tell.. I have no idea about this kind of thing.. Seems everyone else gets more or better than i do.
How is this fair! Hah. Never mind as i said i get on with my own life and bring my boy up alone


This isn't the "fair" board. This is the legal board. If you are not getting support in accordance with the law, then you need to go back to Court and ask for an increase.

And if you don't need the money to bring up your boy alone put it in the bank to pay for his college/university education.

This isn't the "fair" board. This is the legal board. If you are not getting support in accordance with the law, then you need to go back to Court and ask for an increase.

And if you don't need the money to bring up your boy alone put it in the bank to pay for his college/university education.

I do he's got a nice little thing going for him. Im sorry I never meant to start an awkwar argument here.
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