First off I'll start by saying I'm 22 years old, and after 2 months of "talking" I found out Im having his baby... Im extremely conflicted in the way I feel, not about the baby, because even though this is not the way I wanted to become a mother.. I love children and am genuinely happy to become a mommy... but about the father of the child.

I'll back up and say I had just recently ended a four year relationship that was less than ideal when I started talking to the baby's father who truly is a wonderful guy that treats me like gold.. its not anything I've had before in previous relationships. But its not all sunshine and rainbows.. he is in the process of divorcing his current wife, and that has always been a big issue for me to deal with. The biggest problem is that he is still currently sharing a home with her.. the story is that she will be moving out when it is finalized and he will keep the house.. but I am very uncomfortable with the whole scenario. I actually let him know a few weeks ago that I didn't want to see him again until everything was finalized and he offered to move out until that time.. I don't want him to uproot for me but it is a dynamic that I would rather not be a part of. BUT NOW I'm pregnant so I feel that I don't really have a choice in that matter anymore.

Also he is really excited for the pregnancy.. when we were waiting to see if I was he expressed to me that he hoped I was, an emotion I didn't share at the time. BUT I worry he is excited for the wrong reasons.. and I say that because I honestly get the feeling he wants me to be pregnant because he knows then I will always be around. I feel that way because he seems to be very clingy to me, very quickly. He overloads me with texts and calls.. flowers.. and if he isn't saying sticky sweet things to me, well he probably isn't talking. I don't know if this behavior raises red flags with me for good reason, or if its because Ive never been treated that way before in previous relationships.. its just overwhelming...

With all that being said, I do care for him. He is very sweet and I know he will be a great father by the way he is with his son from a previous relationship..

I just don't know that I want to be in a relationship with him.. Should I give it a try for the baby's sake? Or should I just wait it out.. I don't know what to do..

Im lost.

Sorry for the overload, no one else knows about my pregnancy yet and this is the first I've really spoken about it.. I need outside opinions..

Take it slow. He may just be excited to have someone who loves him back if his marriage has been emotionally over for a long time. If you do end up with him, realize you will end up being a step-mother to his son, so your baby is not the child you will have to consider.

If you truly want to be a Mother, go for it, but considering the shaky ground you're on with the bio dad, it would be best if you left his name off the birth certificate and gave the baby your last name. Also, for the baby's sake, file for child support as soon as the baby is born, no matter what is happening in the relationship. And also it would be wise to find out as much as you can about why his marriage ended, as it may affect your future with him.
Congratulations on becoming a Mother, it is truly one of the best blessings in life. <3

When you chose to have sex with him, you entered the possibility of him being a permanent part of your life. Because sex means the risk of pregnancy.

You don't need to marry him or even be in a romantic relationship, but he is the father of your child and you have to deal with that fact.