Look4direction
Jul 24, 2012, 10:02 AM
The father of two girls was awarded custody of the children under false accusations made towards the mother. This was done by the father to get back at the mother for filing for and going through with their divorce. He told the mother if she went through with the divorce he would see to it that no matter what he would take her children from her.
He was and still is very abusive and controlling of her although the divorce has been over 6 years ago. She had custody of the children in the beginning, however, he was successful in carrying out his promise of taking her children in order to hurt her the worst way he could. The stress, years of multiple forms of abuse, control, and above all taking her children caused the mother to literally lose everything. She had already became very depressed, and diagnosed with Chronic Panic Anxiety, Panic induced seizures (which she was unaware she was experiencing), during the entire divorce process.
He intentionally withheld money, cut off all her access to their mutual savings, credit cards, made her move out of their home while she still had custody of their children which were very young at the time. Although she had custody she was ordered by the courts to pay him a large amount of money during their separation which was to go towards half of the monthly bills, utilities, car payments, etc.
However, the money she paid him did not go to any of these. She was financially handicapped due to having to pay him, and at the time having both the children. Utilities were getting cut off in their home on a daily basis, so she had to turn to her family and community agencies for help everyday.
One of the children was in diapers and on formula, the other was about to enter the first grade. Since he was not living in the home and had an epo against him, he stated to her, after her begging him to stop this nonsense for the sake of the children, "MOVE OUT OF OUR HOUSE". So she did and got an apartment.
Still having to pay him, he was living with family, was able to afford an attorney and continue to follow through with his plan to destroy her totally. She was working, taking care of her children, and once the divorce became final he came full force. The final move he made was to call her to tell her that her vehicle was being repossessed.
All this stress, fear, worry, anxiety that had been increasing every day from his behavior, actions, threats was at suddenly so worsened after he told her about the vehicle. That night she went to bed with her children in bed with her and had a seizure in her sleep. Her oldest daughter was awakened by the seizure and was unaware of what was happening to her mom. She knew how to use the cellphone to call her father, which she did. He called the police.
The mother was awakened post-ictal not aware of what had happened, the father was in her apartment with the police, paramedics, fire department and now had his chance to carry out his promise of taking her children. He had the police officers convinced that the mother was on drugs and was simply passed out.
Although, once the mother awakened, was well aware of what he was doing and had full custody of her children, she was not permitted to even speak to the officer, she called her family which lived about two blocks away, they came to her apartment immediately, to find that the children were being sent with the father against the mothers wishes to go with the family member instead.
The officer did not know of the danger he was possibly putting the children in by allowing the father to just take them in the middle of the night. The Mother was then told by the officer that she was either going to jail or the hospital. She requested the children be sent with her family because she was in fear for her children.
The officer still would not allow her to speak, she had never been in trouble a day in her life, was a college graduate, hard worker, christian, and above all a wonderful caring and protective Mother! In one night this all changed. She did what the officer told her and walked out to the ambulance and went to the hospital, the officer came to the hospital and charged her with endangering the welfare of a minor.
She was in complete and total shock! She was unable to see her little children from which they had never been separated from one another. She was unable to afford an attorney to fight this ridiculous accusation and was appointed a public defender and forced to take the charge. Still unaware of her state of health and unknowingly having Panic induced Seizures, which was what actually happened to her that night..
She was not allowed to see or speak to her children for two weeks, he went to court and took custody of her children and the judge ordered her to only be able to see them with supervision. When she finally was able to get her children and see them for the first time after this incident, she was in such distress and at an all time low.
Her family was driving and with her, when they arrived at the pickup location, she found that her oldest daughters hair had been cut completely off, which was all the way down past her waist. He knew what doing this to his daughters hair would do to her mother, especially without her knowledge or agreement of something the mom had such strong feelings about.
This overwhelming hurt, mixed with flood of emotions of seeing her little girls again caused the mother to go into full blown panic induced epileptic seizure in the back of the car as she looked over at her baby girls. Her family in the front seat heard a gurgle noise and the little girls began to cry out, "Whats wrong with mommy?"
The mother woke up in the emergency room in a CAT scan machine completely disoriented. This episode that took place was the first time her seizures had been actually witnessed by someone and was the answer to what had happened the night the father took the children for good.
All this was the beginning of the end for this mother. She lost her entire will to live, became suicidal, gave up, gave in and fell completely apart. He had seen to it that she was labeled as a drug addict, absent mother, loser, and chose to continue to keep her from her children as much as possible. With all these labels he placed on her she lost everything she had worked her entire life to become and have.
She began to not care what she did, she eventually turned away from everything she believed in and turned to substances to numb her pain. She got into legal trouble, became homeless and so many other things that where so out of character. This behavior went on for about a couple of years, her family continued to support her, talk to her and eventually she sought help.
She has been clean and out of trouble for over four years. She has attempted to get her children back through so many avenues, and without assistance of an attorney. Although, her ex-husband still and worse than ever continues to drag her name through the mud. She no longer allows his words get to her she remains stronger than ever, but still unable to get her daughters back. She has taken thousands of drug screens, got another college degree, and above all continued to always love and care for her children.
He is re-married and has another child. The mother pays him child support, she can barely afford, and he continues to fight her for these children, and now with the help of his new wife continues to "ATTEMPT" to drag the mother down. However, she will not give up on her children and getting them back with her where they belong. Although, she still suffers from PTSD and Chronic Panic Anxiety Disorder she sees her doctor regularly and her seizures are no longer existent.
The Children want to be with their Mother as she wants them to be with her. They are constantly questioned and quizzed by their step-mother and Father after they have been with their mother for the weekends. The father has broken all custodial guidelines. But, without the help of an attorney the Mother remains helpless in this battle for these innocent children.
The Mother is constantly being slandered on the social networks by this woman, of which the children's friends see and therefore, her concern is what has been done and is still being done to them will cause them some kind of problems. The Mother admits her faults and mistakes and has paid dearly for each one.
How can she stop this harassing, threatening, slandering behavior from her ex and his wife? How can she get her children back with her? She has done everything the courts asked of her several times over and over, presented her proof to her ex-husbands attorney, filed motions on and represented herself in court numerous times. However, nothing is ever enough to prove herself!
Does this Mother ever have a chance against this resentful ex-husband? IF so How can she get her children completely back where they belong and long to be?
Please help someone? Please give me an answer as to what I can do to get my life back... I am so desperately hurt, questioning if ever leaving such an abusive relationship in the first place was the right thing to do. Because since then my life has been a living nightmare... If anyone at all has any kind of advice of how to win this battle please reply. I Pray for some relief somewhere for myself and my children's sake!!
He was and still is very abusive and controlling of her although the divorce has been over 6 years ago. She had custody of the children in the beginning, however, he was successful in carrying out his promise of taking her children in order to hurt her the worst way he could. The stress, years of multiple forms of abuse, control, and above all taking her children caused the mother to literally lose everything. She had already became very depressed, and diagnosed with Chronic Panic Anxiety, Panic induced seizures (which she was unaware she was experiencing), during the entire divorce process.
He intentionally withheld money, cut off all her access to their mutual savings, credit cards, made her move out of their home while she still had custody of their children which were very young at the time. Although she had custody she was ordered by the courts to pay him a large amount of money during their separation which was to go towards half of the monthly bills, utilities, car payments, etc.
However, the money she paid him did not go to any of these. She was financially handicapped due to having to pay him, and at the time having both the children. Utilities were getting cut off in their home on a daily basis, so she had to turn to her family and community agencies for help everyday.
One of the children was in diapers and on formula, the other was about to enter the first grade. Since he was not living in the home and had an epo against him, he stated to her, after her begging him to stop this nonsense for the sake of the children, "MOVE OUT OF OUR HOUSE". So she did and got an apartment.
Still having to pay him, he was living with family, was able to afford an attorney and continue to follow through with his plan to destroy her totally. She was working, taking care of her children, and once the divorce became final he came full force. The final move he made was to call her to tell her that her vehicle was being repossessed.
All this stress, fear, worry, anxiety that had been increasing every day from his behavior, actions, threats was at suddenly so worsened after he told her about the vehicle. That night she went to bed with her children in bed with her and had a seizure in her sleep. Her oldest daughter was awakened by the seizure and was unaware of what was happening to her mom. She knew how to use the cellphone to call her father, which she did. He called the police.
The mother was awakened post-ictal not aware of what had happened, the father was in her apartment with the police, paramedics, fire department and now had his chance to carry out his promise of taking her children. He had the police officers convinced that the mother was on drugs and was simply passed out.
Although, once the mother awakened, was well aware of what he was doing and had full custody of her children, she was not permitted to even speak to the officer, she called her family which lived about two blocks away, they came to her apartment immediately, to find that the children were being sent with the father against the mothers wishes to go with the family member instead.
The officer did not know of the danger he was possibly putting the children in by allowing the father to just take them in the middle of the night. The Mother was then told by the officer that she was either going to jail or the hospital. She requested the children be sent with her family because she was in fear for her children.
The officer still would not allow her to speak, she had never been in trouble a day in her life, was a college graduate, hard worker, christian, and above all a wonderful caring and protective Mother! In one night this all changed. She did what the officer told her and walked out to the ambulance and went to the hospital, the officer came to the hospital and charged her with endangering the welfare of a minor.
She was in complete and total shock! She was unable to see her little children from which they had never been separated from one another. She was unable to afford an attorney to fight this ridiculous accusation and was appointed a public defender and forced to take the charge. Still unaware of her state of health and unknowingly having Panic induced Seizures, which was what actually happened to her that night..
She was not allowed to see or speak to her children for two weeks, he went to court and took custody of her children and the judge ordered her to only be able to see them with supervision. When she finally was able to get her children and see them for the first time after this incident, she was in such distress and at an all time low.
Her family was driving and with her, when they arrived at the pickup location, she found that her oldest daughters hair had been cut completely off, which was all the way down past her waist. He knew what doing this to his daughters hair would do to her mother, especially without her knowledge or agreement of something the mom had such strong feelings about.
This overwhelming hurt, mixed with flood of emotions of seeing her little girls again caused the mother to go into full blown panic induced epileptic seizure in the back of the car as she looked over at her baby girls. Her family in the front seat heard a gurgle noise and the little girls began to cry out, "Whats wrong with mommy?"
The mother woke up in the emergency room in a CAT scan machine completely disoriented. This episode that took place was the first time her seizures had been actually witnessed by someone and was the answer to what had happened the night the father took the children for good.
All this was the beginning of the end for this mother. She lost her entire will to live, became suicidal, gave up, gave in and fell completely apart. He had seen to it that she was labeled as a drug addict, absent mother, loser, and chose to continue to keep her from her children as much as possible. With all these labels he placed on her she lost everything she had worked her entire life to become and have.
She began to not care what she did, she eventually turned away from everything she believed in and turned to substances to numb her pain. She got into legal trouble, became homeless and so many other things that where so out of character. This behavior went on for about a couple of years, her family continued to support her, talk to her and eventually she sought help.
She has been clean and out of trouble for over four years. She has attempted to get her children back through so many avenues, and without assistance of an attorney. Although, her ex-husband still and worse than ever continues to drag her name through the mud. She no longer allows his words get to her she remains stronger than ever, but still unable to get her daughters back. She has taken thousands of drug screens, got another college degree, and above all continued to always love and care for her children.
He is re-married and has another child. The mother pays him child support, she can barely afford, and he continues to fight her for these children, and now with the help of his new wife continues to "ATTEMPT" to drag the mother down. However, she will not give up on her children and getting them back with her where they belong. Although, she still suffers from PTSD and Chronic Panic Anxiety Disorder she sees her doctor regularly and her seizures are no longer existent.
The Children want to be with their Mother as she wants them to be with her. They are constantly questioned and quizzed by their step-mother and Father after they have been with their mother for the weekends. The father has broken all custodial guidelines. But, without the help of an attorney the Mother remains helpless in this battle for these innocent children.
The Mother is constantly being slandered on the social networks by this woman, of which the children's friends see and therefore, her concern is what has been done and is still being done to them will cause them some kind of problems. The Mother admits her faults and mistakes and has paid dearly for each one.
How can she stop this harassing, threatening, slandering behavior from her ex and his wife? How can she get her children back with her? She has done everything the courts asked of her several times over and over, presented her proof to her ex-husbands attorney, filed motions on and represented herself in court numerous times. However, nothing is ever enough to prove herself!
Does this Mother ever have a chance against this resentful ex-husband? IF so How can she get her children completely back where they belong and long to be?
Please help someone? Please give me an answer as to what I can do to get my life back... I am so desperately hurt, questioning if ever leaving such an abusive relationship in the first place was the right thing to do. Because since then my life has been a living nightmare... If anyone at all has any kind of advice of how to win this battle please reply. I Pray for some relief somewhere for myself and my children's sake!!