Okay, here is my situation. I am 34 and she is 29. We met online and live 2 miles from each other. We started a hot and heavy relationship in April and had talked of marriage, children and the future. Then I discovered she had split with her previous fiancé 6 days before we met and was still in contact with him online, though he lives in England and we are in the USA. I confronted her and she swore she had no feeling for him and even sent him email telling him she didn't love him anymore and to stop contacting her. But he continued to contact her and she talked to him.

I ended up becoming distant with her and pointing out all her flaws, really pushing her away from me, and she then ran back to him. 11 days of no contact passed. I gave in and called her and we ended up spending lots of time together again, and even made love again. She says she loves me, but also loves him, and she can't decide who she wants to be with. She is afraid to make the wrong choice. She has a ticket to fly to England for a week in 5 days. She has agreed to choose between us before the flight and if she chooses me she won't go. She is still in constant contact with him and today she told him she still has feelings for me.

I feel like I am going to die from this emotional roller coaster. I am so in love with her and want to marry her and can't see myself happy with anyone else in my life. I know this is crazy, and why do I want to be with someone who would treat me this way? Please help! What do I do? I just can't walk away from her.

This is not a straight forward answer but I would think to myself why do I love her and weigh out her flaws and why you love her and base both of those on a scale of 1-100 then see if it's really worth it or not.