I am in a situation that is truly affecting me on a daily basis.

I am 21 years old, in a relationship (and engaged) to my partner of over 3 years and we have NO SEX LIFE. He is 25 years old. When we first got together we had a normal amount of sex, but that stopped after only a few weeks. I take care of myself, work out, I constantly get hit on and asked out and even though I would never take up any offers from these random guys, it's really nice to feel attractive. Even if it's from a complete stranger.

Our non-existing sex life isn't the only thing missing, I get no compliments, little appreciation, and overall I really just don't think he thinks to care about how I feel or think, or more importantly what I want! I always make sure I look my best for him, and sometimes even walk around in sexy outfits just to try and provoke him... never works. I know that he loves me and we really do have the best time together... but it's almost like we've turned into best friends instead of lovers...

My problem is, with all of this boiling up inside of me, and taking a toll on me emotionally... HOW do I start this conversation with him? I am at a loss for what to say and how to bring up to him that I want him to make me feel wanted!

(He's absolutely not gay & on no drugs/meds to affect his performance)

HELP :(

Do you ever initiate the intimacy?
What happens when you do?
Do you have conflicting schedules?
How long have you lived together?
So you have separate social lives, or different interest you pursue separately?

Is he physically active?

Basically you talk of sex as you would any other subject.

Stop trying to make him make the first move and just jump on him lol some lads don't like to make the first move and want the women to take control why don't you try it.
This happened with me and my girlfriend about a year ago but the other way round we just acted like mates but we split and got back together and now all we do is have sex, maybe you could say if it doesn't change you will go this will scare him if he loves you and will make him do anything.

You have no relationship with this man if you can not "talk" about sex and problems you are having. Talking about issues is the main base of a relationship.

I see lots of trouble besides sex here.