If we encourage a girl without saying that we are getting hurt, or feeling possessive about her when she speaks about her ex, or some other male, then she will go on speak about things like these, and it hurts too much.

On the other side, if we restrict her not to speak like this again, then she will completely stop sharing things with me, and that hurts more then the first one. I don't know what to do but, I can't live without her and I love her so much.

I am too possessive about her, and to make her feel compatible with me, I have to share everything she wants to share with me. And if I did it like this it's hurting too much. To avoid this, I should stop feeling possessive about her. Someone please help me..!

Being possesive is a product of FEAR, and INSECURITY. Overcome your fear, and you will have no need to be overly possesive. Then it won't hurt when she shares. When its too much,say so. Have some courage my friend, to express yourself honestly, but tactfully.