He has been away (abroad) for a couple of months, returned sulky, impatient, totally changed. He was just tired of hard work, that's what he said, but I suspected there's more to it, and found a photo in his pocket.

Since I can't access his emails or his phone, I have no clue. Does anybody know this girl? It is to Cameroon that he travelled, so I suppose she must be from there, and that there were other expatriates she had liaisons which.
Please help if you can. You may as well help him, as I will eventually leave him, and he may wish to continue his life with her. Thanks in advance for any piece of information. Now I’ll figure out how to insert the scanned photo.

Just scanned a photo without which my question is of no use,, tried to copy and paste - but it wouldn't let me,,

Please don't post it. Your chances of identifying this woman are teeny tiny. Why not talk with your husband about this, maybe with an unbiased person/priest/counselor to referee.

No need to post the photo, just ask your husband about it.

If you do post it, it must be deleted by the moderators.

But I saw pic posted,


No need to post the photo, just ask your husband about it.

If you do post it, it must be deleted by the moderators.
Sorry it was sent before I finished-- yes, I know it was in a different context,, but I'm still willing to give it a try - other than that ple see my answer to wondergirl

Wrote a long reply -- and for some reason it just vanished -- don't have the energies to retell it -- but in a nutshell:
1. I have confronted him, suggested we take counselling; under no circumstances would he join me! According to him I am only imagining,
2. Have no idea since when he started lying to me and manipulating me!
3. This photo isn't last resort to prove I am sane! If I could even contact the girl, I would find out; a friend of mine - with a similar problem had a brilliant idea- which just revealed the truth through a friendly chat on the phone.
Please help; I feel as if almost half of my life I wasted!:(

Did you tell him you found the photo? If so, what did he say?

Yap, I have! He denied having to do anything with anybody ( maintained his usual "beyond reproach" pretence ); accused me of imagining things, of accusing him! - the hard working, sole provider... Suddenly it dawned upon me - the longer sojourns abroad he spent, the more sistan, hostile, furious,degrading and disregarding he grew towards me! - while I kept waiting for him, pariently,devotedly -- foolishly trusting him, attributing this behaviour to stress due to hard work,
This is it - in a nutshell -- drinking me nuts,