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lKittycow
Jul 16, 2012, 08:19 PM
First off if you are reading this I would appreciate a genuine answer since this is a very sensitive topic to me, but please be honest.

A little over a year ago I had, the should have been, best thing that has ever happened in my life. It all started when my little brat of a sister told easily the best looking girl in my school that I was going to ask her out. When I found this out I immediately got her number and texted her explaining everything and how I was never going to. As the night went on we kept on texting until very late at night. It was then that I realized that I had came across something special. After a few weeks of texting and me being a ***** she took the initiative and asked me out for a lunch date the next day. Then, while I was feeling extremely confident I said OK. When the next day arose I was extremely nervous and could barely focus in my classes. When lunch finally came around I ditched her. I ditched her. Looking back on it it was one of the worst things I had ever done in my life. After school I went back to what I was comfortable with and texted her again all day. After a while I think she got tired of our relationship going nowhere so we just kind of stopped talking. Recently I got in the same Science class as her but just couldn't work up the courage to talk to her again.

I know I am truly an idiot and probably don't deserve her anyway, but she has been through a few relationships herself after we finished talking that have not gone well for her and the guys have all been s to her. I know that if I got another chance I would not do the same thing, I have been much more social with girls and feel much more confident about myself.

Just to get into a little bit more detail, I am a pretty attractive guy, I am not trying to sound cocky because really I am the furthest thing from, I hang out with people who are not popular at all because I would much rather enjoy myself with guys that I can sit back and play Xbox with on the nights of school dances and have partys with like 6 guys and no girls without alcohol, just sitting in a basement playing video games or watching movies.

Many other girls that I have became close with have always wondered why I don't have a girlfriend since I am a good looking, nice, modest guy, but I know that if I ever do get into another relationship the girl I am writing about will always be my #1 pick and I know if I do get another chance, then I will treat her better then anybody else in the whole world would.

Thank you, if you have any advice on how to get her back please help me I don't know what to do, I can't stop thinking about her.

P.S. There are obviously many other guys out there that are pursuing her due to her good looks so that is why I am cautious about the whole "Just tell her how you feel" thing

UnsungHero171
Jul 16, 2012, 11:38 PM
I know it sucks to see her. And you'll just sit there in class every now and then and just say.. what have I done. But telling her/ talking to her is the only way to solve anything. Don't just blurt it out. But maybe one day just shoot a text and tell her how you messed up. But be nice about it.. tell her a little bit. Like how you let what could have been the best thing to happen to you just slip through your fingers. That you were nervous. She will at least appreciate that you were truthful with her and she won't look at you as a d bag who ditched her. I know you're not but she might. You never know what could happen until you try. Maybe set up a little group party or day at the beach or something and invite her and a few of her friends... tell her. Its pretty much the only way

Gamed
Jul 16, 2012, 11:56 PM
Trust me I went through the same thing. I am a fitness freak and a boxer so my figure is above average this one girl was the girl of my dreams Hot hot hot and smart I did what you did couldn't build up courage I was happy in my comfort zone with her for you the comfort zone is texting. She came to a boxing tourny I won 2 fights to impress her than got k0'ed from getting cocky. All my confidence was gone after that. So the only chance I had was be the love right in front of her eyes. I didn't say or flirt cause I had 0 courage left but I was a shoulder for her to cry on and a listening ear. One day someone called her a lesbian with no life and I stood up to him making it seem like ''hey this girls off limits cause I'm going to protect her.''

Normally id never tell anyone that story but sounded like you needed it and it'll help you understand how to get the girl with zero guts of asking her out or flirting.