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hello_there
Jul 16, 2012, 04:43 PM
I have been dating my boyfriend for a week and 5 days now. When he asked my out on July 4th, we were having such a great time together and just kissing non-stop all that day and then after having such a great day together, we started dating. We had been talking to each and known of each prior to July 4th for at least one week. In all, we have hung out together 3 different times so far and its really great when we are together. But I notice that he doesn't text like how he used to when we first met each other. At first, he only went a day without talking to me, but lately, he has not txted me or called me or anything for 3 days going on 4 now. I have a HUGE GIGANTIC problem with that. Its not because I do not trust him, he's simply because I really enjoy tlking to him and I just want to spend a lot of time with him. And if we can't spend time together, then a text would be nice. I'm not saying that we have to be texting all day everyday, I'm just saying maybe a couple of texts a day wouldn't hurt or only go just 1 days without talking to each other. I REALLY like him and I know that he likes me and I know that he is not cheating , he just likes to have too much space in my opinion. And when I do try and text him, he won't text me back. I don't think he's mad at me or anything and I KNOW for a fact there is nothing wrong with his phone because I always see him on this social networking site that you can only access through your phone. I know this because me and him both have the app on our phones. Hes an aquarius and I've read that this is normal behavior for them to go days without talking to friends and partners, but is this REALLY normal? If this is how our relationship is going to be, I don't know if I can stay, but I'm in a bit of a pickle here because I do not want to leave him cause I like him sooooooo much... I just don't know what to do or how to handle this... HELP PLEASEEE.

kcomissiong
Jul 16, 2012, 05:01 PM
It isn't notmal to be in a relationship after two weeks. My guess... there is some immaturity here, the fun is gone, and he'll disappear as quickly as he showed up. This isn't a relationship, it's a flirtation, and he's over it now. I know that isn't easy to hear, but you are WAY too invested in this for two weeks. Relax.

hello_there
Jul 16, 2012, 05:04 PM
So its just me being immature and too emotionally invested?
Its not that he doesn't like me anymore or anything like that?

Gamed
Jul 16, 2012, 05:10 PM
You are coming off as the crazy GIVE ME ATTENTION kind of girl in my opinion you just met each other practically and your asking if a long relationship will involve this. If you had 0 contact in this time something might have come up you don't know. Only time will tell.

Seelein
Jul 16, 2012, 11:14 PM
I think you are letting it get to you that things aren't progressing faster and getting more serious with this guy. You just met so it's NORMAL!
I understand the urge to have daily contact. I understand that it seems urgent to get that attention from someone you like so much but try and remember that it takes time to incorporate someone into your life. You didn't even know this guy a month ago. Not having daily contact is totally normal. You say you have fun when you are together and that you like each other so I don't think you need to worry.
I suggest you go and do something YOU love. Plan a few dates with yourself. Give yourself a pampering day, buy a new outfit, go to a park, ride a bike somewhere you have never been. Basically take your time and use it well. That way you will not be waiting and counting texts, but rather enjoying your life and growing as a person.
If this guy is interested in you he will be interested because you are you, not because you are waiting to hear from him.