AbsolutKrusty
Jul 16, 2012, 05:47 AM
Our story is quite complicated.
We met two and a half years ago, and instantly had a spark. He was 18, planning to go to uni and I was 16 doing GCSE. Even though our age gap is tiny, at that age it seems quite significant, so we were on and off for 7 months. In the September, we 'finished' for good as he was moving away for uni, however he ended up rejecting this and doing an apprenticeship still at home. By the time I got this news I was already dating someone else. I was with this new guy for 6 months, but deep down in my heart I knew I wasn't happy, and wanted to go back to him.
When we split, we were on and off again, until it got serious June last year. When I say serious, I mean we saw each other more and because a lot more affectionate to one another, with me believing we would soon start a relationship. He then however, went on a lads holiday where he met a girl from up north half way in. When he came back, I had a feeling this happened, but didn't say anything as we were still as close as before. I then went away the next day for 2 weeks with my family where he did not reply to any texts, Facebook messages etc. I assumed he was busy. We were both back in England for a week, when he saw 'busy' up until the day before he then went away again with his family for a week. This is when he told me about this other girl and said he saw her while I was away etc but he would tell her about me, and that he would stop things with both of us. However by the end of the night we seemed 'normal' again as just as close as before. On his return, he would be blunt, cancel when arranging to see me and never give any effort. We had a lot of fall outs, as I believed that he finished it with her and thought it was because he didn't like the person I was any more. I have never felt so worthless and desperate.
We patched thing up about 1 month later, and on Christmas day we became official boyfriend and girlfriend. We booked a holiday for June, and everything was perfect until we went. We got talking about it and he admitted that he had had sexual encounters (not sex however) with this girl on several occasion when he had denied it before, she met his parents where it was always forbidden for me to go around his house, and he never told her about me. He said the girl was not a nice person, and only saw her because he was seeking approval as she made him feel bad about himself. He said he ignored me for my protection and he deep down knew I was the one all along, he was just a mess and couldn't think straight.
This has hurt me more than anything, but the true fact is that we were not together. What hurts the most is that he lied, even when telling the truth on holiday at first (he told me no one else had met his parents, they had no sexual contact and lot more) I do still trust him as I understand it was hard for him to tell me as he didn't want to ruin what we have. It just hurts so much, and there's times where I am fine about it, and others where I hate him and don't want to see him. I do however want to stay with him as he has tried so hard to redeem himself and other than this, has treated me better any other guy has before. I love him so much, its just hard right now.
We met two and a half years ago, and instantly had a spark. He was 18, planning to go to uni and I was 16 doing GCSE. Even though our age gap is tiny, at that age it seems quite significant, so we were on and off for 7 months. In the September, we 'finished' for good as he was moving away for uni, however he ended up rejecting this and doing an apprenticeship still at home. By the time I got this news I was already dating someone else. I was with this new guy for 6 months, but deep down in my heart I knew I wasn't happy, and wanted to go back to him.
When we split, we were on and off again, until it got serious June last year. When I say serious, I mean we saw each other more and because a lot more affectionate to one another, with me believing we would soon start a relationship. He then however, went on a lads holiday where he met a girl from up north half way in. When he came back, I had a feeling this happened, but didn't say anything as we were still as close as before. I then went away the next day for 2 weeks with my family where he did not reply to any texts, Facebook messages etc. I assumed he was busy. We were both back in England for a week, when he saw 'busy' up until the day before he then went away again with his family for a week. This is when he told me about this other girl and said he saw her while I was away etc but he would tell her about me, and that he would stop things with both of us. However by the end of the night we seemed 'normal' again as just as close as before. On his return, he would be blunt, cancel when arranging to see me and never give any effort. We had a lot of fall outs, as I believed that he finished it with her and thought it was because he didn't like the person I was any more. I have never felt so worthless and desperate.
We patched thing up about 1 month later, and on Christmas day we became official boyfriend and girlfriend. We booked a holiday for June, and everything was perfect until we went. We got talking about it and he admitted that he had had sexual encounters (not sex however) with this girl on several occasion when he had denied it before, she met his parents where it was always forbidden for me to go around his house, and he never told her about me. He said the girl was not a nice person, and only saw her because he was seeking approval as she made him feel bad about himself. He said he ignored me for my protection and he deep down knew I was the one all along, he was just a mess and couldn't think straight.
This has hurt me more than anything, but the true fact is that we were not together. What hurts the most is that he lied, even when telling the truth on holiday at first (he told me no one else had met his parents, they had no sexual contact and lot more) I do still trust him as I understand it was hard for him to tell me as he didn't want to ruin what we have. It just hurts so much, and there's times where I am fine about it, and others where I hate him and don't want to see him. I do however want to stay with him as he has tried so hard to redeem himself and other than this, has treated me better any other guy has before. I love him so much, its just hard right now.