Makinmoves
Jul 7, 2012, 09:02 AM
A little over a month ago I declared to my then girlfriend of 10 months that I needed time and space to figure things out. I asked her to move out... She was devastated even though I told her it wasn't the end. We still saw each other 2-3 times a week for two weeks. Then all the sudden the tables turned...
I wasn't the object of affection for her anymore, I didn't respond well, textbook situation, I get it.
After a couple weeks of me and her torturing myself going back and fourth with what we are to each other, finding out she's been exploring with other dudes yet still wanting to work things out, she decides last night to just finally let me go. She says on a scale of 1-10 on how much she loves me it's a 10, but on the same scale of how in love she is with me it's a zero. She says she just wants space to have fun this summer and then get back together. I agree to grant her wish. Understandable after all we put each other through this past month not to mention I'm no catch anymore since this happened I've been on a downward spiral into joblessness and depression. I need to figure out how to make myself happy without her for a while.
But here's the kicker - She said if I proposed to her seriously she would say yes because she feels like that would create more of the bond we used to share before I unknowingly broke her heart. And even more so if she were to be pregnant with my child. She admitted she doesn't want a commitment with me right now yet she wants the two biggest commitments in the world from me.
My questions: what the hell should I think of that? And should I completely ignore any contact from her? (she's under the impression now that I will be at her every beck and call)
We're both crazy. In different ways. But it's what we love about each other.
I forgot to mention - I'm turning 25 in a month she just turned 23 a week and a half ago.
I wasn't the object of affection for her anymore, I didn't respond well, textbook situation, I get it.
After a couple weeks of me and her torturing myself going back and fourth with what we are to each other, finding out she's been exploring with other dudes yet still wanting to work things out, she decides last night to just finally let me go. She says on a scale of 1-10 on how much she loves me it's a 10, but on the same scale of how in love she is with me it's a zero. She says she just wants space to have fun this summer and then get back together. I agree to grant her wish. Understandable after all we put each other through this past month not to mention I'm no catch anymore since this happened I've been on a downward spiral into joblessness and depression. I need to figure out how to make myself happy without her for a while.
But here's the kicker - She said if I proposed to her seriously she would say yes because she feels like that would create more of the bond we used to share before I unknowingly broke her heart. And even more so if she were to be pregnant with my child. She admitted she doesn't want a commitment with me right now yet she wants the two biggest commitments in the world from me.
My questions: what the hell should I think of that? And should I completely ignore any contact from her? (she's under the impression now that I will be at her every beck and call)
We're both crazy. In different ways. But it's what we love about each other.
I forgot to mention - I'm turning 25 in a month she just turned 23 a week and a half ago.