So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now... and I am not really happy... I pay for almost everything... when we do hang out it's always when and where he wants to... (which I end-up paying for)... he works a full-time job and pays no bills but a small car note... but is always asking me for money...

He has never brought me anything (a birthday gift... Christmas)... nothing! (but I have brought stuff for him) He is always in a bad mood about something... everything I say to him he gets defensive and mean towards me (whenever I try to talk things out with him).

He has cheated on me several times ( so I do have trust issues), we don't really talk much... and when we do it's about him asking me for money etc...

I find myself catering to his every need and get nothing in return... I feel very drained... used... unappreciated... and unloved in this relationship...

I have tried taking breaks from him... but he contacts me 24/7 non-stop until I speak to him... I have tried talking to him about these issues... but he say's I am nagging him and insecure... recently I have pulled back from paying for everything and either have him pay for just himself or pay half of the bills...

I know that my actions add to his behavior (because I can be a push over at times) but I want to know what actions can I take or change within myself to get the respect I deserve from him and to make him be a man. We are both in our early 20's...

He is not the problem here, you are, you have accepted it. From this moment on, never pay more than 1/2 or dump him and leave him dumped.

He can not talk you back, if you don't answer you phone or talk to him, don't ready a email or text from him,

You have allowed him to use you and treat you poorly. Stop giving him money and buying him things. Learn to say no! If he continues to act like a jerk, dump him and don't answer his calls, don't take him back