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Aspie-chick
Jul 3, 2012, 05:26 AM
My life has never been boring to say the least.
5 years ago I met a wonderful man, I had then a 1 yr old son.
We broke up,then proceeded to work for him part time brick labouring for extra cash while still single.
I was clearly still in love with him while working with him however, we both in the past year got married to different people we exchanged random sometimes dirty flirty texts, but never acted on it.
We had little to no contact while we were both married apart from the odd hello and how are you doing I am happy for you blah blah blah.
Recently we both went through very unexpected break ups with our marriages I returned to my home state and he offered me a place to live.
He is the sweetest most kindest person and I still have feelings for him.

Given so many years have passed but we have remained great friends over the past 5 years I am feeling we can make a share arrangement work.
My son is now 6 and he has a baby daughter who is only small and lives with his estranged wife. Is it going to end up the happy ever after or is it frought with danger of bed hopping and wanting looks while I cook dinner and tend to the home. Is there a rainbow after the storm for both of us?
We are both well adjusted adults and will always be friends with love for each other.
It feels right, weird, but good? Any advice?? Please to make this a success?

slapshot_oi
Jul 3, 2012, 02:51 PM
Is it going to end up the happy ever after or is it frought with danger of bed hopping and wanting looks while i cook dinner and tend to the home. Is there a rainbow after the storm for both of us?
Aside the fact that you two have already dated in the past, both of you were married and separated over the course of one year. Do you honestly think rebounding with an ex is actually a good idea?

I think you both need to be single for a while.

mmresd
Jul 3, 2012, 05:25 PM
First decide if you are both getting divorces to pursure something with each other, that is if both of you are married, if both of you are single then you need to clarify whether you guys are giving this another chance BEFORE moving in together. Remember the reason why you broke up, is that reason not going to be an issue anymore? I wouldn't recommend getting back with an ex ever, even if it is JUST to live with him with NOTHING else happening in the house, which we all know is a bunch of bull.

Caspi
Jul 3, 2012, 09:49 PM
If you are going to date, you shouldn't move in together until you have given it enough time to see whether it will work out. This is particularly true if you have custody of your son and he will be moving with you.

joypulv
Jul 3, 2012, 11:02 PM
It sounds like you look for rainbows after storms but the storms never stop a' comin'...
It sounds like you hop around without so much as a blink...
I'm not judging! I had a pretty tumultuous life in my 20s and 30s, and just because that was 40 years ago doesn't mean I have forgotten.
I just don't think we strangers online can predict the future.
Sharing would certainly cut expenses. Working, caring for your son, AND doing the cooking and cleaning does have an ominous undertone of disaster. So... TALK about that part before you move in with him. Expediency + getting older and wiser might = a good arrangement.