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babygirl1995
Jun 27, 2012, 10:50 AM
Okay let me give you some info... I'm Starlet my ex's name is Peter... me and peter dated for 2 1/2 years off and on. And well we've had our ups and downs and had our really bad fights were we won't talk for a long period. But regardless he's always there to be my superman and I'm always there to be his wonder woman. Like we're best friends and have been for almost 5 years. And well we broke up last year because of my father and he started dating this girl named Jackie and well me and Jackie got into this huge fight because of how I still loved Peter and wanted to be with him and all this and just I wasn't able to talk to Peter anymore. And then I started dating my boyfriend now named Bryan and well we've been dating for almost a year. We broke up a couple times but got right back together other then this last time it was a week 1/2 before we did and well yeah we're back together but like I don't know me and Peter started talking again because him and Jackie were having problems and ended up breaking up and well me and him hung out and talked and well we kissed. And I hate that I did that to my boyfriend but its like... when I'm with Peter there's somethiing about us that regardless of our history we're always be happy when we're together. Like I don't know what it is but I'm happy around him and he's happy around me.but him and Jackie got back together and me and him can't talk because of her and Bryan. And well we've been status tagging. Not like tagging each other but on oovoo ill post a status and he'll answer it and then ill answer his. So status tag. But like I don't know my boyfriends in Virginia right now and will be for a month and me and my ex hung out today and we kissed again and he wanted to go father but I didn't let him. But we're both happy in our relationships and I hate that I have done this to my boyfriend but like I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm falling in love with my ex all over again. But I'm in love with my boyfriend. What do I do? Please someone help. And if your going to talk about the cheating yes I know its wrong and I hate doing it but when its my ex I can't help it. I've cheated on other guys with him. But like I don't know what to do! Please help me...

Homegirl 50
Jun 27, 2012, 01:24 PM
How old are you and what did all of this have to do with your father?
Your ex has a girl friend and is talking to you and you have a boyfriend and you are talking to your ex. You are both cheaters, you said you have cheated on your ex before.
Why do you bother having a boyfriend? Stay unattached and you can see and talk to who you want.

You are more that likely going to see your ex while your boyfriend is away because that seems to be what you are, a young person with no self control.
I suggest you break up with your boyfriend and not get another for a long while.

EvolLove88
Jun 28, 2012, 01:03 PM
It seems to me that both of you are insecure and are unhappy with reality so use each other as an escape. I'm sorry but the way things seem is that he wants to be with Jackie and when that isn't going well for him, he uses you as his backup plan and way of finding temporary comfort until he gets what he really wants, which is her. An unfortunately for your boyfriend, little does he know that he is with you and "loved" by you because your ex doesn't want to be unless it is convenient for him. I've been in his shoes and still am in a way and it sucks. So the best advice I can give you is to break up with your current boyfriend, before he finds out and realizes that every attempt he ever made to love you was a complete waste of his time, and give him the chance to find what he deserves, while you remain your ex's temporary fix ( which is all you will ever be now that you've showed him that you will tolerate that). OR you cut off all ties with your ex for good and soak up and respect the fact that your boyfriend is doing what your ex refuses to. So be loved or lusted the choice is yours.