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snoop_Y
Jun 27, 2012, 06:19 AM
Salaams
Some of you may remember me.

I have not posted in a while it seems what I did didn't work about talking to my parents when I did speak to them they paid no attention and that I should not be thinking of things like that.
I have tried diff ways and even gone through my aunt but nothing.

The situation has just gone worse and I reallllllllllllyyy need a diff approach caz as it is my boyfriend has given me a deadline as to our relationship and if nthn is done by then its over. Please may you tell me how to go about both situations as I don't want to lose him over my parents as you know we are wanting to get married...

Any advise would greatly be appreciated

JazakaAllah

WisperWill70
Jun 28, 2012, 11:18 AM
Your family is Muslim, right? Is your father or mother against the marriage because they are against the boy -- or just do not wish you to get married?

I do not know much about your religion but I say to speak to and elder who is close to your family and plead your case or speak to your Imam. Is your Aunt your only family member who could help you? It sounds like your boyfriend wants to progress the relationship and if he can't marry you, you might lose him. The other option is to act on your faith and heart and trust that things will sort things out even if you disobey your parents. Finally, you might have to give this problem to Allah and trust!

Salaam and best wishes to you.