So... My ex broke up with me about 4 months ago and haven't heard from her since. She defriended me on Facebook and I haven't contacted her either to try and do the no contact thing. Yet, I still think about her everyday and just keep saying damnit that I lost her. Do you think if I contact her I have a shot of getting back with her or at least being friends? If so how should I go about that? Or should I just leave it be and keep trying to move on.

Well, did she break up with you over Facebook? Sounds like you want to get back together. Maybe contact her and just see how things are.

Well, did she break up with you over Facebook? Sounds like you want to get back together. Maybe contact her and just see how things are.

Sorry I forgot those details but no we dated for 2 years then she ended it over gchat. The got back together and then she wanted a break on my birthday and then ended it via email a month later and she changed her profile picture to her and her coworker that had a crush on her for the last year.

hi.. SHE broke up with u.She del u on Facebook and its been 4 months u guys haven't been in contact.I know it difficult.what the use of having her back?its been 4 months and u didn't hear from her.. it means she has no interest in your relationship.u love her,maybe you deserve some one better who will value your love.its been 4 months,try to get over.. I know its difficult.btw,she put her profile pic with her co worker who had a crush on him,it means she doesn't bother about your feelings and she has already get over u.I know I pains but be strong.everything is going to be OK 4u.dont lose hope.. ok?
maybe something better is reserved for u and look 4 new opportunity..
take care

She broke up with you has not contacted you in months and befriended you from Facebook. I think that is a pretty sure sign she does not want to hear from you.
Move on. She has.

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So I got dumpped and she got with another guy less than like 5 days after and I keep thinking that she was physically unattracted to me. So here are my stats. I'm 23, 6'3", 215lbs (I have a belly and some tiny man boobs), I'm brown, I'm athletic, I have dimples, I have a 34 inch waist, size 13 shoe size, I can bench 275 and squat 350. I know this is a weird question and I tried to be as detailed as possible.

Are pharmacists attractive to women?

So I am going in to pharmacy school and all my friends keep telling me to wait till pharm school and all the girls will be all over you. Do girls in pharmacy school or do girl like pharmacist guys? Or is it just friends being nice what do you think?

If you are going there for an education, what difference does it make. If we tell you girls don't like Pharmacist is that going to change your mind?
When I think sexy man, pharmacist does not come to mind.

It's the white lab coat that does it. Be sure to keep it clean and well-pressed with no stains on it from lunch.

I was married to a Doctor of Pharmacy - yes, they are the sexiest men alive.

No question about it.

(You're 23 and just entering Pharm School? You'll be 28 when you graduate, competing against people who are younger and can work for less money and survive.)

Customer service will be your middle name.

I'm going to be honest with you, and if you listen, this may change your life.

Looks are nothing.

When a girl is younger, or if a girl is shallow, then looks are important, but, even though you may start dating someone for their looks, you don't stay with them for that reason. She didn't dump you because she wasn't attracted to you. If she wasn't attracted she never would have dated you to begin with. She dumped you because you didn't click, or because of your personality.

I don't know you, I haven't met you, but just based on your post alone, I'd say your personality needs some work. Why? Because you came to a site, posted your attributes, even how much you can bench press. You're vain. You wanted people to come here and say "you're hot".

Stop worrying so much about what's on the outside. Your appearance will change your entire life. Worry about what's on the inside.

I was quite pretty when I was younger, did some modelling, and never had a lack of male attention. I'm 41 now. I'm not ugly, but I definitely don't have the body and face I did 20 years ago.

When I met my husband a lot of people asked me why I was dating him. He's not ugly, but he's not gorgeous, until you get to know him. I fell in love with him because of who he is. He makes me laugh, he's smart, he's compassionate, he loves animals, he's my best friend. When I look at him I see the most stunning man on this earth. Even better, he looks at me, a woman that's had 2 children, has aged, and isn't nearly as pretty as she was when we met at the age of 19, but he still thinks I'm the most beautiful woman on earth. Why? Because like him, I also have a great personality. I was never just a pretty face to him. I was so much more.

What you look like doesn't matter. Who you are does.

I have to disagree with Alty, it seems to me that you are insecure. Maybe that has something to do with why she dumped you.

I agree with Alty... she's spot on with her assessment. How old are you Caspi?

I agree with Alty...she's spot on with her assessment. How old are you Caspi?

In his original post he said he was 23 and a bit of a Adonis; but with man-boobs and a belly.

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Relationships end for so many reasons and the reason you have is rarely the right reason. You're done. It's over. Accept it and move on.

A lot of people, as alty said, don't focus on looks. They focus the person as a whole. Sometimes people kind of but don't really click. It happens. You will go through many people before you find the one.

You are vain, or at least you sound it. You should tone that back a little.

OP is 23... I meant how old was caspi... their comment appears to be from a fairly young person. Most people start to out grow that perspective about the time they start becoming adults... (however a few are like that their entire lives).

I feel that from your message, you seem to lack confidence in yourself. Getting dumped can be a big blow to your confidence, but look at it this way, there are 7 billion other people out there. Don't let 1 person bring you down this way.

I have no idea how you look since I don't see any pictures, but looks really aren't everything. You can be very good looking and it may help you attract some girls, but if you lack confidence, it's going to hurt you in any long term relationship as well as life and in your career.

Besides, everyone has different taste, so who are we to judge if you're attractive or not?

OP is 23....I meant how old was caspi....their comment appears to be from a fairly young person. Most people start to out grow that perspective about the time they start becoming adults.....(however a few are like that their entire lives).

What perspective?

No person is ugly. Every person is whole, perfect and complete. Just be yourself. You are beautiful, attractive and tempting, as everyone is. There are blinds, limps and even deafs-dumbs, who have takers. Just be confident. You must consult some psychologist if you lack it. Motivate yourself.

So my ex dumpped me over email after we went out for 3 years and she said that I was the one and that she wanted to marry me blah blah blah. Any tips to make this break up the hardest on her than ever because it hurt me so much. Oh by the way she started dating a guy that I told her was chasing her for 2 years.

The best thing to do is act like a real man and move on.

How will hurting her help you? The only person you'll really be hurting is yourself. Get over it, move on, and leave her alone. She can't help that she's no longer in love with you, and getting even won't do a thing to change that.

I have to say, the more I read your posts the less attractive you become.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-make-exs-life-living-hell-678973.html

What perspective?

The perspective of vanity most common among the young.. where what's outside matters more than what's inside.

Sounds more like a little boy than a man. A man would be happy they got out of a situation like this before they would be paying alimony and/or child support... a boy feels the need to get even..

I have to say, the more I read your posts the less attractive you become.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-make-exs-life-living-hell-678973.html

Good lord...

Yes, may I assume you are teens, it sounds that way.

Really hurt her? Find someone new after a while and be really happy. Don't ever contact her again, and show her that you did not need her.

Good lord..............

Have to agree - ugly goes to the bone.

I'm still laughing about his shoe size being part of his measurements.

No person is ugly. Every person is whole, perfect and complete. Just be yourself. You are beautiful, attractive and tempting, as everyone is. There are blinds, limps and even deafs-dumbs, who have takers. Just be confident. You must consult some psychologist if you lack it. Motivate yourself.


Whoa - you've just managed to insult entire groups of people. "Blinds, limps and EVEN deafs-dumbs... have takers?"

Good news for handicapped people everywhere, particularly the "limps."

Whoa - you've just managed to insult entire groups of people. "Blinds, limps and EVEN deafs-dumbs ... have takers?"

Good news for handicapped people everywhere, particularly the "limps."

I guess they were speaking on behalf of their own group... the simpletons.

- cutting right to the chase! Love it.

so my ex dumpped me over email after we went out for 3 years and she said that i was the one and that she wanted to marry me blah blah blah. any tips to make this break up the hardest on her than ever because it hurt me so much. oh by the way she started dating a guy that i told her was chasing her for 2 years.


Revenge is ugly - and makes you an ugly person.

Good Grief! The more I read here the more I wonder if we're being trolled. Honestly.

If you're looking for advice then move on. I do realize we all have our moments of weakness, I have looked up exes on Facebook too, but for the love of Pete let it go! On again/off again will always be that.

As for looks. All in the eyes of the beholder. Just be confident. That will be far more attractive than a six pack and a spray on tan. You seem the sort for sporting a spray on tan.

Chill out. Really. You will find someone, or someone will find you. You will scare a good number of people away with what you're doing now. The people you will get will probably be more of the same.

Good Grief! The more I read here the more I wonder if we're being trolled. Honestly.

If you're looking for advice then move on. I do realize we all have our moments of weakness, I have looked up exes on facebook too, but for the love of Pete let it go! On again/off again will always be that.

As for looks. All in the eyes of the beholder. Just be confident. That will be far more attractive than a six pack and a spray on tan. You seem the sort for sporting a spray on tan.

Chill out. Really. You will find someone, or someone will find you. You will scare a good number of people away with what you're doing now. The people you will get will probably be more of the same.


- Don't mince words. Tell us what you REALLY think! Best post of the day.

Personally... I think the OP really needs to consider taking an oath of lifetime celibacy... or cut his own boy parts off.

The perspective of vanity most common amoung the young..where whats outside matters more than whats inside.

I think you may have misunderstood my comment. I was simply disagreeing with the assessment that he is vain. One would have to be insecure to be continually seeking affirmation from strangers.

I think you may have misunderstood my comment. I was simply disagreeing with the assessment that he is vain. One would have to be insecure to be continually seeking affirmation from strangers.

I can accept that clarification... Thanks for giving it.