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hannah 454
Jun 24, 2012, 08:00 AM
I am 19 years old and my boyfriend 22 years old
But I feel that like 19 is to young to have a baby and all as I want to live in life and not have kids right now but it all my boyfriend talks about and I am worred that he will get bored of waiting for me to want kids with him
So do you think at 19 is to young to have kids ?
Thank you very much
Hannah

Fr_Chuck
Jun 24, 2012, 08:05 AM
He wants the idea of a baby and of course if it does not work out he iss gone, it is much more likely to be "bored" after a baby is there and he is tied to all of that work.

Oldies15
Jun 24, 2012, 08:08 AM
To some it is and to some it isn't. But if you feel your not ready then you shouldn't do it. No matter how conciderate your being of the other persons feelings you always have to think what's best for YOU.

hannah 454
Jun 24, 2012, 08:16 AM
I think that he be a very good dad but I do not feel I'd be a very good mum and I'd always want the best life for my kids and give them everything that they want and a mum and dad together in a good life without them worring about anything but beening a kid
And I do not fell that they get that from me

Wondergirl
Jun 24, 2012, 08:17 AM
Do you have plans for more education or training, maybe some time to work at a job you like and learn some new skills, and perhaps you hope to travel a bit? I had my first baby around my 25th birthday (was married), and that child totally changed my life. It wasn't until both of my boys were in their late teens that I had the luxury of sleeping in on weekends and watching whatever TV show I wanted without competition and having peace to read uninterrupted or just sit in a quiet house alone.

You don't have any idea of what is ahead of you--the responsibility hanging over your head, the sleepless nights, the worry about money, the questions always running through your brain--once a baby comes along--and I was in a stable relationship. Yes, babies are cute and adorable, but... And if the father of your baby decides this isn't for him after all, he can pick up and leave--and guess who is left holding the baby? And if you aren't sold on the idea to begin with...

hannah 454
Jun 24, 2012, 08:22 AM
I am hoping to do a lot of traveling as I'd love to see more of the world but to him he wants me to stay at home with the baby and he can go to work etc etc
I love it just beening the 2 of us at the min and I'd like to have more of a life with him and then have kids when I know that me and him are not going to break up or at least stay together without the little falling out that we have sometimes

Fr_Chuck
Jun 24, 2012, 08:48 AM
No he wants YOU to stay home with the baby so he can go off to work, and sometimes go off with a friend, and sometimes do other things on the weekend

hannah 454
Jun 24, 2012, 09:08 AM
Like in a few years when I have done more things I do not think I'd mind so much about staying at home why he when out with mates and I stayed at home
But he really want a kid now and every time I say lets wait for a few years it makes us fight as he knows he wants a kids like now as he did a lot when he was around my age and did everything he wanted to do so I kind of understand why he wants kids now