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Invidia
Jun 22, 2012, 10:33 AM
My boyfriend emotionally cheated to me before, he asked the girls number, Yahoo messenger and land line . And he asking if she got a boyfriend etc. Till this moment I still don't forget about it and I caught him lying countless times and now he's planning to go to a whorehouse. But we are very happy and I satisfy he's every need. I cry all the time because its very unfair ESP all I do is just take care of him never cheated on him . What should I do? I will always have doubt on him.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 22, 2012, 10:36 AM
What are you doing with this man then? Have some self dignity, and leave. You can do so much better than that!

Invidia
Jun 22, 2012, 10:42 AM
What are you doing with this man then? Have some self dignity, and leave. You can do so much better than that!
But he didn't physically cheated on me yet and he's helping my family too he's turning 30 and I don't feel that he will be ever ready.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 22, 2012, 11:01 AM
But he didn't physically cheated on me yet and he's helping my family too he's turning 30 and i dont feel that he will be ever ready.

Are you kidding me? Emotionally cheating is just as bad as cheating. You are dilusional and going to be stuck in this unhealthy relationship if you don't stand up for yourself.

AA24
Jun 22, 2012, 09:27 PM
Get out. Leave him and never look back. You deserve better. Anyone does. Don't tolerate this type of crap, you don't deserve it.

Out there in the world is a man that deserves your love and who will love you with all of his heart. You need to let go of this extremely unhealthy relationship. And remember that emotional cheating is in many ways worse than physical cheating.

Not that either one is acceptable, but "flings" often happen spontaneously and come with a tremendous amount of guilt. If he is emotionally investing in other women it is because he does not love or really even care about you. THIS IS NOT A REFLECTION OF YOU! Don't take it that way! It's a reflection of him and his inability to commit.

Leave him. He does not deserve you.

talaniman
Jun 22, 2012, 09:34 PM
Have you confronted him with you evidence?

Happysoulshine
Jul 14, 2012, 04:11 PM
Well, let him go to the whorehouse, then!! You're NOT his puppet on a string.
It's time that you snatched those strings that keep you attached to him.
You're not really happy, you're saying it because you just don't want to be without him.. .

You satisfy his every need but he doesn't satisfy your need for protection, honesty, loyality, intimacy? He doesn't!

You will not only always have doubt on him, but on yourself, too.

He's breaking your self-esteem!

Stand up for yourself, and tell him you're breaking up with him because you won't accept him cheating on you all the time.

It's okay, if your boyfriend has got female friends. But if he just uses them in a way to make himself feel sexually good, asking females for pictures, etc, when he is in a relation-ship with you.. . or dirty talking all the time.. . that's no good. Tell him how you feel about him doing that, and make it clear that you are leaving, and he can be looking for somebody else, instead, that you are not the one for him, then.