farahshoaib
Jun 20, 2012, 10:49 AM
Aslam-u-alikum,
I am married and I'm living in England with my husband.my visa status is student and my husband is my dependent here.I am studying here,doing job and also have household responsibilities as my brother in law also living with us.My husband is also doing job here.I have 4 year visa and during this period we are working really very hard because I have to pay my college fees,rent and also need to save some for future as if I go back to my country so I should have some money to take a good start.I have a joint account with my husband as I think that husband and wife should trust on each other,so I'm contributing in rent fees ,in every thing just to make our future and family life easy for both of us.but my sister who is the wife of my husband's elder brother,(she told me that my husband is sending money to her husband account to save 7 lack for the marriage of her sister and have an account in pakistan as her husband receiving money from there)My husband is pretending me here that he have no money in his account... whenever I ask from him for some saving he usually show me that his account is in minus.and I was worried that why he could n't save any money yet as we both are working here.I trust on him and he is lying with me,I am working hard,facing so many hurdles here,compromising on my basic needs, even don't have a baby just because he said,we cannot afford a baby now.but he is just thinking about his family.and I know that its not allowed in islam to use your wife income without her permission.my husband have 5 brothers and they all should contribute in her sister marriage.I said to him that we will contribute at least 150000 in her sister marriage which is enough from our side as we cannot afford any more... and he was agree on it as my in laws have also some savings of my father in law 's in bank.but he is taking all the responsibility of her sister and saving such money just to spend on her marriage but not thinking about our family life, our future... I have no family life as a wife.I m really disheart.I m also someone 's daughter,someone 's sister,. why he is using me.my question is what should me do now according to islam... what should my response to my husband now.my health is going down.I remain depress most of the time,have no family member here.I am fed of my life.please ans me soon.
I am married and I'm living in England with my husband.my visa status is student and my husband is my dependent here.I am studying here,doing job and also have household responsibilities as my brother in law also living with us.My husband is also doing job here.I have 4 year visa and during this period we are working really very hard because I have to pay my college fees,rent and also need to save some for future as if I go back to my country so I should have some money to take a good start.I have a joint account with my husband as I think that husband and wife should trust on each other,so I'm contributing in rent fees ,in every thing just to make our future and family life easy for both of us.but my sister who is the wife of my husband's elder brother,(she told me that my husband is sending money to her husband account to save 7 lack for the marriage of her sister and have an account in pakistan as her husband receiving money from there)My husband is pretending me here that he have no money in his account... whenever I ask from him for some saving he usually show me that his account is in minus.and I was worried that why he could n't save any money yet as we both are working here.I trust on him and he is lying with me,I am working hard,facing so many hurdles here,compromising on my basic needs, even don't have a baby just because he said,we cannot afford a baby now.but he is just thinking about his family.and I know that its not allowed in islam to use your wife income without her permission.my husband have 5 brothers and they all should contribute in her sister marriage.I said to him that we will contribute at least 150000 in her sister marriage which is enough from our side as we cannot afford any more... and he was agree on it as my in laws have also some savings of my father in law 's in bank.but he is taking all the responsibility of her sister and saving such money just to spend on her marriage but not thinking about our family life, our future... I have no family life as a wife.I m really disheart.I m also someone 's daughter,someone 's sister,. why he is using me.my question is what should me do now according to islam... what should my response to my husband now.my health is going down.I remain depress most of the time,have no family member here.I am fed of my life.please ans me soon.