She won't do it and we have been gng out for over 4 months now I really need help please

What does "going out" mean to a 13 yr old? How old are you? Do her parents know that you are dating? Do they approve?

Why are you pressuring her to do things she doesn't want to do? If she is not ready, then she isn't ready. You are both too young to be playing at being adults. Enjoy your childhood.

No everyone else kisses and hugs at our school she's the only one that won't

Gys I need help give me some instructions or stuff

No everyone else kisses and hugs at our school she's the only one that wont

If everyone jumped off a bridge would you? I seriously doubt if everyone does it. Unless you are in a very small school I doubt if you even know "everyone".

And you didn't answer the question about whether your parents approve of your dating.

But the bottom line is you DO NOT pressure her to do something she doesn't feel comfortable doing. If you want a girl who does, then break it off (she will be better off) and find someone else.

There's more important things in a teens life than overt displays of affection.

Have you actually ASKED her why she doesn't do this.
Communication is important..

You will not get any help here in trying to force or cajole your girl into doing something she doesn't want to.

You chose to post here so you have to accept any advice we give. You can ignore the advice but not stop it.

Sorry you are a child and acting childish, "everyone does it" of course not, a few do, maybe your friends do but no everyone does not. That is a silly statement at best. It shows your complete immature nature in this.

Going out, and exactly where and how do 13 year old children go out ? Dad drive you on a date ? So you hang out some and call each other boyfriend and girl friend, trying to act like the older kids.

She is not ready, what part of wait and get over it, or get a new girlfriend do you not understand.

You can't "get" or make a girl hug or kiss you. She either wants to or she doesn't, and at her age she does not need to be doing that anyway.
You are behaving like a spoiled brat trying to make her do it. Why don't you do her a favor and break up with her.

'Instructions or stuff?"
You sound about TEN talking like that.
She sounds mature and wise and with a mind of her own. Wish I could meet her!
You are going to meet people your whole life who will not want to do what you want. There are no instructions, no orders, no demands, no tricks either.
If you don't care for what the other person does, you leave and find someone who is to your liking. That is the only 'rule.'