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5162011
Jun 18, 2012, 07:23 PM
I have been having bad dreams about my boyfriend cheating on me and leaving me for other girls constantly. I love my boyfriend and I know he does too and we both want a future together but with this dreams I'm just scared and insecure. What to do?

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 18, 2012, 07:41 PM
Dreams say a lot about ones self, they can also say nothing. It seems to me like you're afraid of losing him, but why? You must figure out the reason as to why you feel this way and confront it. Only then will those dreams stop.

5162011
Jun 18, 2012, 07:48 PM
I think the reason for me being afraid to loose him is because of the past experiences I have been through and it seems as if this relationship is going to turn out as bad or maybe worsy. Because of my insecurity can also be a reason why I'm soooooo afraid

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 18, 2012, 07:50 PM
You need to ask yourself if you trust him. If you do, then you shouldn't feel this way. The very fact that you feel insecure says you don't, and if you don't trust him you can't have healthy relationship with him. If you past insecurities make you feel this way, then maybe you aren't ready for a relationship yet.

5162011
Jun 18, 2012, 07:54 PM
I do trust him its just that we have gone through aloot of bad times and we have both made mistakes that we regret but its never gone as far as cheating just like him that he loves attention specially from girls

Well tanx for your help but now I will have to delete this page because he is upset... Do uu know how ii can cancel this

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 18, 2012, 07:59 PM
I think deep down you don't trust him if you're so afraid to lose him, that you have dreams about it.

Sounds like you are in an unhealthy relationship, ever consider ending it and finding someone who only wants your attention?

Nick Pettr
Jun 19, 2012, 01:47 AM
Usually should be to relax the mood, to pay more attention to rest.

Smilesmilesxx
Jun 20, 2012, 12:52 AM
Before my ex randomly out of the blue ended the relationship to see another girl after three and a half years of being with him... I had dreams about him doing it most nights.. I confronted him he was like "why would I ever do that to you" it all came out now that he was texting this girl in front of me on Xmas, new year etc... The dreams were right and I never ever trusted him! Everything I dreamt bad about my ex came true, he done everything he could that Hurt me and all along the trust issues I had and my subconscious were right... Confront him ?

talaniman
Jun 20, 2012, 12:09 PM
I don't think it healthy at all to go from dreamss to real life without a LOT of thoughts and self evaluations. The person to confront is YOURSELF, and how YOU interpret your feelings the dreams leave you with.

An honest self evaluation is what's needed.

Self-assessment - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-assessment)

Bottom line is you need to know where these feelings come from, and how best to deal with them BEFORE you project them on some one else.