View Full Version : My child's father don't want to see her
new mom19
Jun 16, 2012, 03:16 PM
My question is my child's father won't come see her I feel like its my fault its his only child and she don't know who her dad is? Yea I had my daughter at a young age but he's not ready to do his part? What should I do I try everything please help me I don't know what to do I cry every night cause my daughter don't have her father around
Fr_Chuck
Jun 16, 2012, 03:20 PM
Why do you feel it is YOUR fault he will not come.
ScottGem
Jun 16, 2012, 03:29 PM
I'm not going to say it is not your fault to some extent. I was just having this discussion in another thread. ANY time you have sexual intercourse you risk pregnancy. If everyone would ask themselves do I want this person to be the parent of my child before they engaged in intercourse we might have fewer children with only one parent.
But the fact is that you can't make someone be a parent. It is more his fault than yours. So you try to be the best parent you can and hope you meet someone who will want to be a father to your little girl.
new mom19
Jun 17, 2012, 05:54 PM
Thanks for th response but all it did was make me cry I understand what your saying but I feel like there's not hope for me
ScottGem
Jun 17, 2012, 06:07 PM
thanks for th response but all it did was make me cry i understand what ur saying but i feel like theres not hope for me
Its not about you. And that's what you need to understand. Its about your daughter and you need to be there for her. You need to get over it. It's done. Now you have to look on her as a blessing for your life and you need to get over your guilt to be the best parent you can.
LadySam
Jun 17, 2012, 06:47 PM
Take it from someone who should have asked themselves the very question that ScottGem just mentioned.
Not every man is meant to be a father, what children need is someone who loves, cares, provides, supports them. In your case, like mine, you are that person.
It's a matter of putting your nose to the grindstone and making sure that you are the best mother that you can be, because you will take on many roles in the coming years.
Don't sit around and cry for something that you cannot make happen, but rather be the strong person your daughter needs you to be.