I'm hoping my five year old is gifted and it isn't a mental illness. She has been very alert since birth. She recoginized faces at 3 months old. When she was six months old her sister sang a song to her and she was able to say most of the words. Although she didn't walk until she was 15 months old she could speak and had a great understanding for what was being said to her. She is able to call of things that happened when she was three and two. Sometimes I test her just to see if she really remembers or if it's my memory and it is definitely hers! She is able to remember dinosaurs names and is very interested in time. She made me buy her a calendar to put in her room so she knows what day it is. She is very interested in dates and facts! She loves anything to do with a book and wants to write stories! She has a hard time playing with kids because they just don't have the attention span she has. She becomes easily frustrated by this and is highly sensitive. She can't stand to have anything on her to tight. Her socks have to be on just right or she takes them off and puts them on until they feel right to her. I have always felt like she was pretty smart but now I worry about her social needs. I know that every parent thinks their child is gifted. So I wanted to get feedback from someone else. Is she gifted or just in danger of social disaster?

Is she overly sensitive to sudden loud noises, like balloons popping or someone clapping?

Is she overly sensitive to sudden loud noises, like balloons popping or someone clapping?
Yes she is sensitive to certain loud noises.

Does she do any repetitive motions like rocking or hand flapping when she is excited especially? Does she like to walk on her tiptoes?

Yes she is sensitive to certain loud noises.

She is very picky,for instance I put her pillow on her bed with the picture upside down she has to fix it the right way.

Does she do any repetitive motions like rocking or hand flapping when she is excited especially? Does she like to walk on her tiptoes?

No she doesn't walk on her toes or do any hand flapping.

She likes things lined up or put the way she wants them, and no one dare move them?

[QUOTE=lisadonn;3154762]No she doesn't walk on her toes or do any hand flapping.[/QUOTE She doesn't rock either.

How's her eye contact? Does she look right at you or off to the side sort of?

She likes things lined up or put the way she wants them, and no one dare move them?

She does like to have things a certain way and doesn't want anyone to move it.

She likes things lined up or put the way she wants them, and no one dare move them?

She doesn't line anything up,but if she builds something she doesn't want it taken apart.

Thanks for your patience with my questions. How about the eye contact one?

How's her eye contact? Does she look right at you or off to the side sort of?

She makes great eye contact. She talks a lot and wants you to look at her to acknowlegde your involvement in the conversation!

Does she like to get hugs and kisses or does she push you away?

She makes great eye contact. She talks alot and wants you to look at her to acknowlegde your involvement in the conversation!

She looks right at you

Does she like to get hugs and kisses or does she push you away?

She does like to get and give hugs and kisses.

So, to sum this up, your main concern is with the social aspect. Right? The other idiosyncrasies you can deal with.

Thanks for your patience with my questions. How about the eye contact one?

Your welcome and Thank you!

So, to sum this up, your main concern is with the social aspect. Right? The other idiosyncrasies you can deal with.

Lol! I am concerned with her social well being, but, I want her to execel to the highest level possible. I really haven't had her tested for being gifted but I wanted to know if she should see an educational specailist or just someone who has more knowledge about gifted children than I do.

You have been blessed with a very smart daughter who probably is gifted at least in some areas. Over time, this will probably increase in number. I encourage you to work with her strengths to continue to make them even stronger and also help her make sense of her world. For instance, if things irritate her about her clothing, find a way to fix that, even if you have to cut off tags or stop to refit socks. Work with her on patience; be a good role model. Also, take a printout of this thread or make of list of my questions and your answers, and take that to the appointment the next time she sees her pediatrician. He may have some insights about her behavior. Meanwhile, we can give suggestions about her social interactions, as of course can the doctor, or he can refer you to someone who has a degree in child development and a child management practice. As a librarian, I can recommend several helpful books for you to read.

Is she in school yet?

You have been blessed with a very smart daughter who probably is gifted at least in some areas. Over time, this will probably increase in number. I encourage you to work with her strengths to continue to make them even stronger and also help her make sense of her world. For instance, if things irritate her about her clothing, find a way to fix that, even if you have to cut off tags or stop to refit socks. Work with her on patience; be a good role model. Also, take a printout of this thread or make of list of my questions and your answers, and take that to the appointment the next time she sees her pediatrician. He may have some insights about her behavior. Meanwhile, we can give suggestions about her social interactions, as of course can the doctor, or he can refer you to someone who has a degree in child development and a child management practice. As a librarian, I can recommend several helpful books for you to read.

Is she in school yet? She will attend kG in the fall! Thank you I do feel blessed to have her as my child. I want to lead her in the right direction and I was just worried if I can't help her with her emotions how can I help be all that she is meant to be. She does love going to the library it is her favorite place to be.

Having given even more thought to this, be sure to gently teach your daughter respect for and patience with others. Other kids will not be as sharp or quick as she is, but each person has unique abilities and characteristics and qualities that she will put her mind to look for. That will work well in her favor as she goes through school, keeping her from being bullied by jealous kids. Teach her ways to get along with everyone -- not to sell her soul to them and grovel in front of them or allow them to verbally/emotionally abuse her for her uniqueness, but that she will always look for and expect the best in others and then let them know how she appreciates those qualities. If you want examples, let me know. Role playing with her (with each of you taking "parts" and being different people) is a good way to practice how to be kind and how to forestall her upset with others' behavior.