Hello
I am 29 years old married with a kid. My relationship with my husband is somewhat starined. But the problem, I want to discuss and seek help is that from the last six months I have recurring bad memories about an incident happened six months before. We lived abroad and six months before we visited our home country and my in-laws treated me very badly. They stole my jewellery, tried to isolate me in my home(nobody talked to me, nobody dine with me even my husband, nobody never responsed to my greeting like hello or bye), publicly humiliated me and my parents, tried to turm my husband against me (and some what succeed). And in response of all this, I did not say goodbye when I was coming back(really that was all I did). Well we came back,they made a big story out of this and told to my husband, me and my husband had a big fight . But after that we decided to leave everything behind and never bring it back.
Well we never discuss all that till now. But the problem is my mind refuse to let go of all this ugliness, even worse my mind make new scanerios where they treat me badly and I want to shout, I want to tell how horrible they are. I want to treat them as badly as they did. I feel so much anger and humiliation. And I want to stop thinking about what happened and what does not happened (my make believe scenarios). I am tired of them. Whenever I am doing some stuff where my brain is free like dishwashing, cooking, bathing, these thing keep running in my mind. I like, stop for a moment and tell myself donk think about it. But it does not help, a moment later my mind start on that track again.
Does anyone has some advice, to stop these mind tricks, to prevail my sanity, I have lots of responsibilities, my baby, my job, my home.
Please could anyone help me to resolve this issue.
Thanks

He's your husband and you have a child together. Don't you talk about issues that upset one or both of you?

Talk to him.

If you don't want to do that and the thoughts are invasive, then you need to seek a therapist or other trained person who can help you.

He's your husband and you have a child together. Don't you talk about issues that upset one or both of you?

Talk to him.

If you don't want to do that and the thoughts are invasive, then you need to seek a therapist or other trained person who can help you.


I have spent 2 years to be open, honest and communicative with him. But it did not work, he did not share much with me and now somhow he has turned me into himself. Closed and quite.
I kind of agree with your second solution. But I think it will take some effort and time from my part to see some professional helper. That's the reason I came on internet because I have no one to talk and right now not ready for professional help

And I understand - I just don't know how much anyone here can help you. We can tell you to get over it, think happy thoughts, whatever - but I don't know that that is anything you don't already know.

Do you know what would bring you peace?

Thank you for your honest replay. I appriciate it. I think I need some kind of clouser but how... I don't know