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Kenny33
Jun 11, 2012, 05:16 PM
Hi,

Im at my wits end, I'm a 33 year old mother of 4. & am with my current partner for almost 5 years who is father to my youngest 2 year old son. When I net him he had recently got out of prison, as we were not from the same area we talked & texted a lot, I foolishly fell head over heels in love with him, we eventually met & had brilliant weekend, as the weeks went on I found out he was using heroin & addicted to it, this went on for a nearly a year & I stood by him disappointed & heartbroken @ every broken promise, again I foolishly fell pregnant to him & in fairness to him true to his word he finally decided to move in & go cold turkey in my house. This was horrible ti watch but he got there, my fear is he used drink every single night since I've met him, honestly not 1 night has gone by without him drinking, my fears first began when I was pregnant & kept wondering how the he'll would I get to hospital if I went into labour, luckily I was sent in from my last appointment @ antenatal clinic, I went into labour that night & was ringing & ringing his phone him to drunk to hear it, he did eventually turn up stinking of drink & from here on in my fears continued & still continue to thus day,

I often say to him he has a drink problem, to which his he's doing no harm to anyone or not violent which is true but when I confront him he sure does have a nasty streak & usually I don't get a word in edgeways as he just doesn't want to listen, he is a 42 year old man, with not. So much as a driving licence before he came here, I have helped him out so much since he moved here but get nothing in return I'm the 1 working & when come back from work nothing in house will be done & toddler barely changed, I know the answer to this myself but really like advice thank you :-)

itsimplytruth
Jun 11, 2012, 08:37 PM
Hi,

Im at my wits end, im a 33 year old mother of 4. & am with my current partner for almost 5 years who is father to my youngest 2 year old son. When I net him he had recently got out of prison, as we were not from the same area we talked & texted alot, I foolishly fell head over heels in love with him, we eventually met & had brilliant weekend, as the weeks went on I found out he was using heroin & addicted to it, this went on for a nearly a year & I stood by him disappointed & heartbroken @ every broken promise, again I foolishly fell pregnant to him & in fairness to him true to his word he finally decided to move in & go cold turkey in my house. This was horrible ti watch but he got there, my fear is he used drink every single night since I've met him, honestly not 1 night has gone by without him drinking, my fears first began when I was pregnant & kept wondering how the he'll would I get to hospital if I went into labour, luckily I was sent in from my last appointment @ antenatal clinic, I went into labour that night & was ringing & ringing his phone him to drunk to hear it, he did eventually turn up stinking of drink & from here on in my fears continued & still continue to thus day,

I often say to him he has a drink problem, to which his he's doing no harm to anyone or not violent which is true but when I confront him he sure does have a nasty streak & usually I dont get a word in edgeways as he just dosent want to listen, he is a 42 year old man, with not. So much as a driving licence before he came here, I have helped him out so much since he moved here but get nothing in return im the 1 working & wen come back from work nothing in house will be done & toddler barely changed, I know the answer to this myself but really like advice thank you :-)


Its time that you move on. If you are unhappy and you are at your wits end. Let it go. Obviously you can make it on your own. You just need someone to validate that it is okay. I will do that but please know that when you are truly ready to let go of a relationship you move and don't need anyone's advice.

It is never easy to start over but I am sure you are able to do it! When you are ready and make up your mind you will. In my opinion you need to move on but at the end of the day your opinion is the only one that matters.

Best of Luck