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Belvedere
Jun 8, 2012, 12:06 AM
Hi guys! Maybe you can help me out with this pickle I'm in.

We met long ago, but our conversations never passed the" hi how are you's". Not until we found ourselves on a night out with friends, we developed a strange attraction. Ever since then, we started talking more and more. Late nights , hugs that never ended. I finally asked her out, which ended out great . Got her out multiple time after, which after that ended in us holding hands and making out for long periods. Every time I would kiss her, her first instinct would be to back away, but after that first kiss was done she would come back for more.

Now that we've established that connection, I asked her what her feelings were. She doesn’t deny the fact that we may have something. She's loves spending time with me, is always interested in what I have to say, is attracted to me in every way, thinks about me, talks about me, and what we did to her best friend (I know from an insider lol) and recently presented a little jealousy, but caught herself in it and stopped.

Just earlier she told me she needed time and wasn't ready for a relationship. People found out that we were seeing each other and she really didn't mind. Now, keep in mind that we both got out of long past relationships. I honestly think she is worth the wait and willing to do so. Just want to know what you folks think. It's my first time doing this so go easy!

Thanks.

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 8, 2012, 04:32 AM
Give her the space she wants, trust me. Out of a long relationship and not ready? This means she's still trying to get over her ex. If she still likes her ex, it could ruin a relationship, so respect her decision because it's the right one. If she's worth the wait, then stick around. Don't pressure her into a relationship, just stick around, show her you care and eventually she will move on.

talaniman
Jun 8, 2012, 08:36 PM
Just date and have fun getting to know each other, slowly, casually, and comfortably. But keep things in perspective, don't latch on to her to tightly, and make yourself emotionally dependent, because its obvious she isn't as ready as you to commit, just have fun and distraction for now.

That should be your whole approach. Enjoy it while its available. I don't know how long you have been dating her, but don't forget the other ares of your life that you enjoy. Too soon to give those things up for a person who is not ready for what you won't. Maybe she will be later, but holding hands, and making out is not an indication of love... just lust, and attraction by you both.

Have fun, but don't get carried away.