View Full Version : My boyfriend is ashamed of me.
Sarahmark
Jun 6, 2012, 12:58 PM
Hello, I'm having some troubles with my boyfriend. We have 2 years of age difference and I think he's ashamed of me in front of his friends! I even asked him once if he is ashamed because I'm younger than him and he actually said "well, i dont know.." It hurts to hear that, I love him so much.
He used to want to stay with me at school everyday, now I ask him to stay with me he says "its too risky", as in people will see us. But everyone knows that he is my boyfriend. I don't get the point why he doesn't want to hangout with me except in really private places. He has been acting weird lately and not talking or kissing me like before. We don't text each other anymore since two weeks because of exams.
I think the fact we stopped chatting has separated us. I don't know what to do now. Should I give him some time alone? Or should I stay with him at school and go to him ? I am so confused.
Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2012, 01:05 PM
Why would the small age difference affect him? Perhaps you are being so needy and clingy that he doesn't want to spend time with you any longer. Is that possible?
Sarahmark
Jun 6, 2012, 01:11 PM
I am the type of girl that never asks him for anything special I give him all he wants (ofcourse not sex and stuff since I'm still young) but he gets annoyed when his friends see him with me. He gets so mad he always wants to be in a private place and I never argued about it I'm always easy going with him but its getting anoying:(
Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2012, 01:13 PM
How old is he? You know how guys rough-house and tease each other, especially about girlfriends. Maybe that is what bothers him.
Sarahmark
Jun 6, 2012, 01:21 PM
I met him 8month ago, I had a big crush on him. He was the type of guy that every girl dreamed of and that is very hard to get. So from our first conversation he liked me and asked for my num and all. We talked for about 5month everyday from 7am until at least 12pm, I adored him and was sure he loved me. Until the day I revealed my feelings for him. He suddenly changed. He started dirty talking, sending pics and voicenotes, I was so stupidly in love that I sent some back. So I guess he thought I was a whore and told his friends and all the boys in school wanted me. But I didn't realise and continued talking to him a lot and was being very dirty at a point he didn't want any relationship with me and was using me by saying "i love you" but it was fake. Suddenly he stopped talking to me andthats after 8month of pretending he was my boyfriend, his friends told me he had a girlfriend wich is why he was skipping me. I was literally broken. Cried everyday until now, more than 8 guys asked me out after our "breakup" but I said no to all and cried day and night. Until the day I decided to move on and I have a boyfriend now but the problem is I still cry every time I hear his name and read our past convos, it hurts so much I can't forget him! HELP ME ITS GETTING REALLY SIERIOOUS ;'( please
Sarahmark
Jun 6, 2012, 01:24 PM
He is 16 years old. His friends, I hate them. They just make fun of him when he's around me. Thought they want me ;p its really weird but how can I make him comfortable being with me in public? What should I do?
Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2012, 01:33 PM
So which guy is this boyfriend? I'm confused.
Sarahmark
Jun 6, 2012, 01:40 PM
Im sorry ;s the long coment about the guy who broke my heart wasn't supposed to be posted here, so I was saying how can I make my boyfriend his name is andrew, comfortable being with me in public?:(
talaniman
Jun 6, 2012, 01:59 PM
Sarah, it could well be that those fellows have labeled you with a bad reputation behind your back and this new guy is a part of it. That's why they tease him right? I think you refuse to be treated this way and you need to tell the guy you like either stand with you and respect you, or get gone. Frankly, I think he is more worried about what they say, than he cares about YOU, no matter what he says.
His actions are unacceptable. And he and the others are taking advantage of your young age.
Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2012, 02:05 PM
We do our best to keep all related threads together so the responders have the entire history in one thread.
So Andrew is the new guy who is 16, which mean you are 14. Well, you can't "make" Andrew do anything. I strongly suspect if you go to him and hound him and so on, you will annoy him even more than what he seems to be now. He is getting flak from his friends ("Andrew's got a girlfriend!! Woo woo!) because that's what teen boys his age say and do to each other. And if you push it, he will get more flak and really begin to dislike you. Also, your reputation may be on the line here and a topic for discussion among the guys. And, remember, guys are behind girls by several years in maturity, and don't catch up until the 20s. At this point in his life, Andrew would rather please and get along with his male friends than with some girl.
Sarahmark
Jun 15, 2012, 02:47 PM
Thanks everyone I apreciate very much you're help :) I talkes to him and now he changed and is acting better and staying with me infrojt of everyone! :)
ScottGem
Jun 15, 2012, 03:49 PM
And this is a guy you are thinking of having sex with? Please don't. See my response to your other question.