Yeah it always starts of being good to each other and everything...

I'm in the same position as most of the post I have read, except I'm only 11 months with her today. It’s my and her longest relationship. I mean without the break up and all that other stuff. But she has told me she doesn't know what she wants and stuff like that and I have told her what’s going on through your mind. And she told me that her ex was her first love and it just sometimes keeps coming back and everything.

But the difference is he was the type that used to smoke drink and he also cheated on her. And me I've changed so much for this girl that I myself don’t want to turn to that person I use to be. And get this we are a long distance relationship by about 120 miles and I sacrifice my time to go and see her and I'm sure if I was another guy they might be doing crap behind her back. I mean she has told me she wants her space but it’s surprising to me because before she didn’t give me my space. But I didn’t mind about that because my feelings were greater than just getting mad at her for BS you know.

So it has me thinking different and negative now so it’s hard for me to understand even though I know we both need space sometimes but like I said it went from her not giving me space to know getting all mad because I don’t give her space and she doesn't realize it yet. But she still tells me she wants to be with me and everything. I don’t know I'm losing myself. I really need advice on what to do because I poured all my hardest on this one but then again I don’t want to end up losing.

Most of the time, when people say they "need some space", they're trying to let you off the hook lightly. She may have found someone new, lost interest the list goes on with possibilities, but it seems like she's lost the spark, and with no spark there is no fire. I can stay on here going on about all the reasons it probably didn't work, and what may have happened, but I think the bottom line is, you need to start moving on. Go no contact with her and accept that it's in the past and move on. Get out with some friends, try some new things, stay active and keep busy. Time is your friend, and it will help you move on.

Yeah sometimes its hard for me to believe that's the truth, no matter how hard I try to not think of her there's this big feeling inside me that doesn't let me.

Yeah sometimes its hard for me to believe thats the truth, no matter how hard i try to not think of her theres this big feeling inside me that doesnt let me.

That big feeling inside you is very easily distracted though. Get out and do something, hang out with your friends. Go explore, do something new. Soon enough you will forget, and you will move on. It's only as hard as you let it.

When they ask for space/break, give it to them and know your intense feeling for her, are not matched by the same feelings for you. Yeah it sucks to give up, let go, but that's better than being confused and hurt because she is not helping build a relationship with you.