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Mosbydesings
Jun 6, 2012, 10:06 AM
My girlfriend and I date for over 4 years. The relationship was really amazing for the time. We explored not just the world but ourselves. We got very comfortable with each and all that stuff we basically grew up since high school, college . It wasn't till the last two months when she became friends with one of her former high school.classmates. I never was a really jealous person as I trusted just like she did with me. The last month of our relationship they got a job together and spent a little too much time with the guy. We had a nasty breakup and a week later she moved into his home I was devastated became depressive. I guess they became best friends or what not. But we hung out a few times with me trying to bring her back. It seemed like she would but we would end up with her leaving back to her new home.

Two months happens and she came over one night had sex and flirting like everything seemed fine but she kept leaving. After she told me they started dating I backed off because I couldn't deal with what had happened but a month after that she would message me here and there that she was having second thoughts about leaving because they would have huge arguments. I comforted her telling her to come back but toward the end they would say they talked it over.

It's been 4 months since that happened and don't get me wrong I'm healing fast by keeping myself busy hanging out with friends and talking to people. But I still keep wondering if she made a mistake. I still have feelings but I keep them to myself. When we message each other we sort of flirted I even got a couple of rated r pictures. My question is do exes come back

C0bra_M3nace
Jun 6, 2012, 10:40 AM
They do sometimes, but it's not the best idea. Having an ex come back is like buying the same flavour ice cream, hoping the second time it might be better, it's actually the definition of insanity, but that's a harsh word to use.

Let her go man, go no contact, which you should have done from the start. Stop talking, messaging and thinking about her. Moving on will be much easier, and you may even end up finding someone new. You're doing everything right, just adopt no contact it will finalize your move on period and help you continue on with your life.

talaniman
Jun 6, 2012, 12:35 PM
You wouldn't be wondering if they come back, or more to the point will she come back, if you cut contact from her and helped the healing process work better.

If you did (cut all contact), then you would see that she has demoted you to emotional tampon, for when she needs a shoulder to cry on, mostly when they argue. She will use sex to keep you where you are wondering, and hoping.

Cut contact with her and get on with your life.

Mosbydesings
Jun 6, 2012, 08:49 PM
Thanks it helps a lot trouble that also happens is the fact that we live so close to each other we see each other at least once a week

talaniman
Jun 6, 2012, 08:53 PM
Alter your routine for a while.