I am so confused. We are both in our early 30's and have had relationships. I am a shy person, so I can give mixed signals and can come across as uninterested. I also feel like I may be the only one pushing this 'relationship' along. This is a super long one, but I figure the more info the better. Someone will read it.

So I met this really hot guy 2.5 weeks ago through a girlfriend on a Friday. We will call him Brad. I was at an outdoor concert with a couple girlfriends and Brad showed up with a bunch of friends. He immediately walked up to the two of us he didn't know and complimented us on our looks. The concert was boring and I was cold. The guys were headed to the casino I mentioned interest and so the guy grabbed my arm and we were off. He was attentive at the casino. At one point I was playing blackjack with all of his friends and he was standing behind me giving me a neck massage. He had been drinking but not shy at all. I drove so I wasn't drinking. Offered to give he and my girlfriend a ride home. We stopped at a diner where he asked me these crazy questions to determine the type of person I am/what type of guys I like to date. It was determined that by saying white horse that I date friends. I dropped him off at home and he gave my girlfriend and I each a hug.

My girlfriend and he are friends and I think she may have a crush on him, so I didn't tell her I liked him. I recently got out of a relationship, so I told her I wasn't looking for a relationship and wanted to focus on my career and finding a new apartment (Back story: I was living in a house that my ex and I were supposed to move into. We had been together for 5 years and hadn't lived together. We broke up for 5 months and then got back together. We quickly decided to live together, but it ended by the time that happened. It was great closure. I really don't want to be with him and don't think about him or long for him.)

Anyway, the next day brad asked my girlfriend for my number. She told him I wasn't looking for anything and he said he wanted to be my white horse. He texted that day and offered to help me find a new place (he knew a little bit about my situation). I told him I'd love his help. We planned for early the following week.

Sunday I was going to a festival with same girlfriend and some of Brad's friends. I tested him to see if he was going but he was not. Sunday night I noticed a friend request from him and accepted. Monday morning I noticed a test from him at 4:40am. He had looked at my profile and I have a little side green business and he is trying to start something really similar. He said he was so shocked by the coincidence that he couldn't sleep. We texted and decided to have dinner wed to discuss. I was excited.

The 'date' was all business and he had been at the doctors all day getting scans of his back. He may need surgery. Then He told me he was just diagnosed with epilepsy. He drove me home and he came up to my place to see the amazing deck and view. He told me I needed to find a place in the area and that he would show me the ropes and introduce me to everyone. We chatted a little and then he gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek and left. In total we had talked for 4 hours, him doing most of the talking.

Following weekend: Memorial weekend. I hadn't heard from him. Lots going on. I texted Sunday saying good morning. HE texted back saying, 'hanging out with me today' I said possibly but ended up going elsewhere. He told me where he was going that night. I didn't make it there either. He sent an odd text at 2:30am saying to come by. I actually responded with 'What? It's 2:30'. He said text was for someone else. The said we needed to have a real date. That he liked me. Then he hinted at meeting up that night. I said nice try. He then asked me out for the following evening instead. He said my place and that he'd bring food/wine.

He came over and we ate and drank wine. We talked me about his medical stuff and I suggested gluten free. We were in constant contact most of the night. Then we cuddled on and air mattress on the patio and fell asleep until 2am. He said it was the most comfortable he had been in forever, gave me a hug and kiss on the forehead and left.

Next day he texted. He had randomly gotten tons of free gluten free food and wanted me to come over and try it. I was packing and couldn't. The following day (Wed) was the last night in the house with the great patio. I said last chance for the air mattress on outdoor deck. He said he was in and was bringing the girlfriend food. He came over and announced that he was sleeping over. There was no furniture. Only the air mattress outside. We ate, drank, laughed and cuddled. We have more in common. Similar hobbies. He told me the way I carry myself is sexy. Made out a little. Slept. Made out. I hinted at doing more, he mumbled about wanting to but didn't. Slept. He had morning wood, but I ignored it. We joked around in the morning he tossed me around a bit. Got up. He gave me a hug and kiss on forehead and left.

Friday I sent him and email on an allergy test he should try and told him more about all of my and my families medical stuff. He emailed back twice and then we emailed back and forth all day. He thanked me and said I am an angel and have given him confidence. I told him how impressed I was with him. I was going away for the weekend, he told me his evening plans and said he'd be around all next week. I emailed back the next day saying I'd be back Monday.

Sun night I randomly met some fat cats in the business brad and I are both in. We discovered we have mutual friends and wanted to discuss further. I texted Brad about this. No response.

Monday night at airport. Flight delayed. Bored. Texting all my friends. Posting on FB. Texted Brad. No response for a while. He texted back as I was getting on plane. I texted back when I landed.

Next morning I noticed he had tried to call me after I texted from the airport. I had somehow missed it. I was busy posting on Facebook about meeting a cute guy at the airport. I texted Brad apologizing for missing his text. He invited me to join him at the beach. I had a cold, had just gotten hives from some food I ate, but said yes. He said he had a chair, windblocker, towel, and umbrella for me.

I showed up and we had a lingering hug, but then laid down and talked forever about the biz guys I met, how we can do business together, and how being gluten free is already changing his life. I would have asked him to put lotion on my back but I didn't want him to really see my hives. I would touch him, but nothing. Finally he rested his head on my back, but then sand was blowing in my face. I was cold so he rubbed my arms and back then cuddled me and rubbed my legs. He kept resting his head on mine and I think was kissing the top of my head.

Too windy. I was hungry. We went for food. Sat across from each other. Talked. Laughed. He had a hard time making eye contact. Was embarrassed about being at a manly dive bar but unable to order beer, whiskey, or a hamburger. He was glad I was there to help him decipher the menu. He drove me back to my bike on his scooter and not even a hug.

Yes he drives a scooter. Doesn't own a car. He is smart and ambitious though. The house I was living in when we met was $6k/month and my ex drove a farrari (brad doesn't know about the car).

I know he was interested at first. Did he loose interest? Are we too deep in the medical/work stuff? Am I too available? Is he just shy/insecure? I really like him...