My roommate sent me a long email of things she feels is unfair regarding how we take care of our cat. By the way, we have lived together for 1.5 years and get along great, and do lots of things together. I was taken aback by her complaints and she seems to have assumed things about me that are annoying her, regarding caring for the cat. One thing I apologized for which is fair, but the others, I'm like, where is this coming from?? I emailed her back (short email) apologizing for the one thing, saying we can do these other things another way if it's better all around, said I don't know why you think these things about me because I wasn't trying to do anything on purpose, and asked her, in the future if she can just talk to me in person instead of email, because it makes me think she is upset about something I did and I didn't intend to do anything at all... she just replied and said yes we can discuss it. Just came off cold and annoyed to me and I feel it's uncalled for. I hate situations like these. Is it best to just ignore emails/texts that "seem" like the person is annoyed and wait to talk in person?. beginning to think so. I hate it because it leaves me hanging for however many days until we talk, with me thinking she's mad at me, from the way she talked in her messages/emails (very diplomatic, etc). I wish I didn't get so worked up about it but it bothered me and I'm pissed to be honest. I'm just going to drop it until she talks to me.

So what's your question Muffin 55?

Is it best to just ignore emails/texts that "seem" like the person is annoyed and wait to talk in person?. beginning to think so. I hate it because it leaves me hanging for however many days until we talk, with me thinking she's mad at me, from the way she talked in her messages/emails (very diplomatic, etc). I wish I didn't get so worked up about it but it bothered me and I'm pissed to be honest. I'm just going to drop it until she talks to me.

LOL... you answered your own question! "I'm just gonna drop it until she talks to me."

Which, by the way, is very good self advice. It will give you both time to cool off, reflect on what is being discussed and allow you time to handle this situation in a clear mature way.

The problem with e-mail is that what is being said may not be interpreted in the way it was written. You say it came across as cold when in reality it may just be the way she writes... to the point... Get it? So yeah putting it aside for now and talking about the situation in person is a good idea.

Chardel - I agree with you - the OP seemed to have answered herself in her first post, so I was asking if there was something more... sometimes our own advice is the best advice!