Hi, before you guys start with the lectures, I know having unprotected sex is stupid and irresponsible, but it happened:/ anyway, me and my boyfriend have been together for quite a while and we decided we were going to have sex one night. We had unprotected sex and he came inside me. We did that a few times that night. Then we did it 3 days later again, same conditions, and he came again:/ I did the math, and it was about 2 weeks after I had my period, give or take a few days. I know I should just wait until my next period is due but its driving me crazy and I just want to know what the odds are that I'm pregnant. Please help

The odds are pretty good. You not only had unprotected sex, but you had unprotected sex during what is the most fertile time for most women.

Now you have to play the waiting game. If you're religious, I suggest you start praying. The odds really aren't in your favor, unless you're trying to conceive.

How old are you and what do you consider quite a while?

As Alty said you had multiple instances of unprotected sex during a likely fertile time. So the odds favor being pregnant. I hope if you dodge this bullet you will have lerned your lesson and stop your stupid and irresponsible behavior.

If you're not on birth control, and you are fertile. You've probably got yourself a baby. Sometimes you learn your lesson, but this isn't something that should be learnt the hard way. I would strongly suggest talking to your parents, this isn't something to play around with at a young age. I am assuming you're a teenager, posting in the Teens section.

Im 16 and not on birth control, thanks for the help guys, altys right just going to have to play the waiting game:(

We've been together for 4 months, coming up to 5

Frankly, that doesn't qualify as "quite a awhile" at least not to me. I would consider a year or more as quite a while.

You didn't answer your ages either.

But the bottom line is you have to wait it out to see if you lucked out or not.

You didn't answer your ages either.


She is 16, but did not say how old the boyfriend is.

We've been together for 4 months, coming up to 5

5 months is not a long time at all sweetheart, I wouldn't even think 5 months is enough to even tell if you're going to want to be with him the rest of your life. If you have a kid with him, you're near stuck with him now.

I did say I'm 16. And my boyfriend is 17. Im sorry you don't think we've been together quite a while but to be honest I wasn't asking your opinion on that, I just decided to put that to give you some info about me. Thank you all for your advice though. So do I just have to wait?

Yes, Hailey, you have to wait. At your ages 4-5 months seems like a long time, but in reality it's not really all that long. You see, some married couples try to have babies for a year or longer before they actually get pregnant. In your case, however, you are not trying, but as you know, "things happen."

Just so you know, I deliver babies for a living and I can almost promise you that if you are pregnant, your relationship won't last too long. You see, you will be tied down with a baby and your BF will eventually want to have his freedom. He won't want to stay home 24/7 to feed a baby or change diapers.

I understand that you are not looking for opinions, but the people who have answered are all adults who have been in your position and/or are parents in a committed relationship.

As a labor and delivery nurse, I see this all the time with pregnant teens. Once the baby is born the boyfriend will say that the baby does not "look like" him, etc.

In the end, you have to wait to see if your next period comes before testing. If it doesn't, and you have to test, be sure to test using first morning urine and read the directions on the box very carefully as to when to read the test. If it says to read the test in 10 minutes and you wait until an hour later, you will get a false result.

J_9 they actually get pregnant. In your case, however, you are not trying, but as you know, "things happen."

Just so you know, I deliver babies for a living and I can almost promise you that if you are pregnant, your relationship won't last too long. You see, you will be tied down with a baby and your BF will eventually want to have his freedom. He won't want to stay home 24/7 to feed a baby or change diapers.

I understand that you are not looking for opinions, but the people who have answered are all adults who have been in your position and/or are parents in a committed relationship.

As a labor and delivery nurse, I see this all the time with pregnant teens. Once the baby is born the boyfriend will say that the baby does not "look like" him, etc.

In the end, you have to wait to see if your next period comes before testing. If it doesn't, and you have to test, be sure to test using first morning urine and read the directions on the box very carefully as to when to read the test. If it says to read the test in 10 minutes and you wait until an hour later, you will get a false result.[/QUOTE]

Thank you so much J_9. As a labor and delivery nurse, do you have any idea what my chances are that I'm not pregnant?

In the end, you have to wait to see if your next period comes before testing. If it doesn't, and you have to test, be sure to test using first morning urine and read the directions on the box very carefully as to when to read the test. If it says to read the test in 10 minutes and you wait until an hour later, you will get a false result.[/QUOTE][/QUOTE]

Thank you so much J_9. As a labor and delivery nurse, do you have any idea what my chances are that I'm not pregnant? I know I have to wait, I just want to be prepared for whatever I've got coming at me.

Your chances are 50/50 since you had sex at your most optimal time.

By the way I'm sorry I sent quite a few messages then, internet kept sending messages too early. Last one important only:) also, if I'm pregnant I'm not going to be asking my boyfriend to stay at home 24/7. He's a teenage lad and I know he would need his space and I respect that. I would never ask him to give up his youth to help me

Thank you J_9

by the way im sorry I sent quite a few messages then, internet kept sending messages too early. Last one important only:) also, if im pregnant im not going to be asking my boyfriend to stay at home 24/7. He's a teenage lad and I know he would need his space and I respect that. I would never ask him to give up his youth to help me




He will anyway, because I can guarantee your parents won't take full resposnsibility for that child, because even if you quit school and got a full time minimum wage job, you won't be able to support yourself and that child on your own. Your parents are going to have to help in some way, they'll probably make him pay child support.

Good luck.

He will anyways, because I can guarantee your parents wont take full resposnsibility for that child, because even if you quit school and got a full time minumum wage job, you won't be able to support yourself and that child on your own. Your parents are going to have to help in some way, they'll probably make him pay child support.

Good luck.

I've got a very big family and lots of people around me who could help me if I had a baby. They wouldn't force him to do anything, financially or otherwise. I literally just want some advice on my chances and J_9 I think has answered that. Im pretty scared so I need people to talk to and I'm not talking to my mum, because my mum doesn't even know I've had sex.I just need some statistics because then at least I have some actual numbers to go by while I have to wait

Last one important only:) also, if im pregnant im not going to be asking my boyfriend to stay at home 24/7. He's a teenage lad and I know he would need his space and I respect that. I would never ask him to give up his youth to help me

Excuse me? He shares the responsibility for you being forced to give up YOUR youth so why shouldn't he share the responsibility and loss of youth? Creatign a baby takes TWO and both need to raise the child.


I've got a very big family and lots of people around me who could help me if I had a baby. They wouldn't force him to do anything, financially or otherwise.

We've heard that one plenty of times before. While you may have plenty of people who can help, its unrealistic to expect family to foot all the costs of raising a child. He contributed to this child and he needs to be responsible. I think you greatly underestimate what's involved in raising a child.


I literally just want some advice on my chances and J_9 I think has answered that. Im pretty scared so I need people to talk to and im not talking to my mum, because my mum doesn't even know I've had sex.I just need some statistics because then at least I have some actual numbers to go by while I have to wait

There are no statistics that will help you. I don't know of anyone who can quantify the odds that a sperm will meet up with an egg. There are just too many factors. So the only thing you can do is what to see if you miss your period.

I've got a very big family and lots of people around me who could help me if I had a baby. They wouldn't force him to do anything, financially or otherwise. I literally just want some advice on my chances and J_9 I think has answered that. Im pretty scared so I need people to talk to and im not talking to my mum, because my mum doesn't even know I've had sex.I just need some statistics because then at least I have some actual numbers to go by while I have to wait

Hey, when they start selling real estate in that fantasy world let me know, I'll be one of the first to move in. So your parents don't even know your having sex, yet you think they're going to be delighted enough that your having a baby, at 16 I might add, that they're going to help you financially, oh please.

Sweetheart, you're not even mature enough to be in a relationship, let alone having sex, if you think your life is just going to be a breeze if you have a kid. If you piss on that test and it shows that you're pregnant you're in one hell of a spiral kid. It's just too bad you couldn't wrap your head around that in the first place.

I wish you the best of luck kid, I really do, because you're going to find out the hard way what it means to have a child, and how hard it really is to raise one.

Elp you. I don't know of anyone who can quantify the odds that a sperm will meet up with an egg. There are just too many factors. So the only thing you can do is what to see if you miss your period.[/QUOTE]

Firstly, I know exactly what's involved in raising a child. Secondly, ever heard of adoption? Im not having a go, I'm just saying.

I know there are lots of factors that affect the chances, but surely there's something? I think you underestimate how horrible waiting is for me! Im on holiday and all I can think of is am I pregnant! Please, if anyone has any statistics, tell me. I just need something to calm me down. And thank you sol gor Irving to give me help and info

Firstly, I know exactly what's involved in raising a child. Secondly, ever heard of adoption? Im not having a go, im just saying.

I know there are lots of factors that affect the chances, but surely there's something?! I think you underestimate how horrible waiting is for me! Im on holiday and all I can think of is am I pregnant!? Please, if anyone has any statistics, tell me. I just need something to calm me down. And thankyou sol gor Irving to give me help and info

I can tell you right now you have absolutely no idea what it takes to raise a child. Trust me. I'd tell your mother you could be pregnant, that way it doesn't come as such a surprise, and possibly ruin the relationship with your parents. To be honest, you should have talked to you mother before you even began having sex, but you learnt your lesson didn't you?

Sweetheart I am helping you. You're just too immature to realize that yet either. Someday you'll take what I said, hopefully that day is soon, like if you aren't pregnant and your next period does come. I would hope that you'd take that as lesson learned, talk to your parents about having sex, let them put you on a proper birth control and help you so you don't go ruin your childhood like you just may have.

Someday, that's right someday you'll thank what I said.

I can tell you right now I know exactly what raising a child involves. Whether you believe that or not, doesn't bother me. So your telling me to tell my mum? And if I'm not pregnant she'll never look at me the same again and it would have been for nothing..

I can tell you right now I know exactly what raising a child involves. Whether you believe that or not, doesn't bother me. So your telling me to tell my mum? And if im not pregnant she'll never look at me the same again and it would have been for nothing...?

You're wrong again, whether she likes it or not your having sex, and you need to be properly protected. IE: Birth control. Whether you're pregnant or not, she is going to have to know at some point. Your parents are there to help, protect and guide you. You'd do well to use it, because they would want you to.

Since you only have a little idea of what my parents are like, don't tell me I'm wrong when I'm talking about them. Look, I'm not telling my mum, I'm sorry if that sounds stupid but birth control isn't my priority at the moment since I'm not going to be having sex for a while! All I want to know are the chances that I'm not pregnant!

since you only have a little idea of what my parents are like, dont tell me im wrong when im talking about them. Look, im not telling my mum, im sorry if that sounds stupid but birth control isn't my priority at thw moment since im not gonna be having sex for a while! All I want to know are the chances that im not pregnant!


I feel so sorry for your parents. I truly do. Good luck with your endeavors, I wish you the best.

I feel so sorry for your parents.
What the hell is that supposed to mean?

What the hell is that supposed to mean?

You are neglecting their trust in you by keeping such things from them. I feel sorry that they do not know of your situation and will be blind sided if you are to become pregnant. I feel sorry that they have a daughter who truly believes that, at 16, she can raise and support a child.

Need I say more?

You owe it to your parents to tell them no matter what you think they will think of you. If they are so understanding as you make them out to be, then this should be pretty easy.

I dont owe them anything.

Well that says it all right there. I rest my case.



Also, I never said I was going to raise it, adoption is an amazing thing.

Have you ever adopted? Yeah my grandmother sent 4 of her kids away for adoption. It's a terrible thing, and it leaves a void inside you, like a part of you is missing, or at least that how my grandmother describes it with tears in her eyes.


You've got a lot of growing up to do, whether you like it or not kid.

Im not your grandmother. Just because she felt like that, and im sorry she did, that does not mean I would feel like that.
That developing baby will be part of you and part of your life for almost a year before it's born. You will feel its movements, it will affect how you move and where you go and what you eat and what you wear and how you feel every single day and even how often you use the bathroom. When you go for your monthly doctor visits, you will see its picture on the scan. Thoughts of adoption will become less and less likely as the months go by, as this becomes more and more "my child."

I hope you will let us know how this turns out.

I might not even be pregnant, I'm sorry for being moody but I really just want odds etc not opinions

But I will let you know what happens

I've cleaned up some of the posts here. We do not attack other members, nor do we dictate who can respond to posts or how. Except as it pertains to our site rules. Violations of those rules should be reported not responded to.

We have to make judgment because all we know is what you tell us. You have to remember that you are 16 and while you may think you know a lot, we, who have gone through 16, know now how little we knew at that time and how little you really know. So we are trying to help you by letting you know the reality of your situation.

The bottom line is that there are no odds or statistics that we can cite for you. You engaged in behavior that greatly increases the risk that you could become pregnant. It is a very real possibility for you. But until you miss your period we can't know.

You have received good, heartfelt advice meant to help you. What you do with that advice is up to you.

I do believe you have learned your lesson, hopefully not too late. But I also think you have a rather naïve and unrealistic idea of the full consequences of your actions.

Thank you. Firstly though, some of the advice given was not exactly what I would call 'heartfelt' saying they feel sorry for my parents etc is not what this post was made for. But I shouldn't have reActed I understand that.

Also, I may be 16 but that doesn't mean I know very little. I think people stereotype 16 year olds way too much and really, everyone is different, some more wise than others and some with a smaller vision of life. Im not stupid, I know what the consequences of my actions could lead to. I also know it might lead to nothing. All I wanted were statistics but now I have been told there are none that can help me, I suppose I'm going to have to be in the dark for a few weeks. I will tell you all what happens.

I'm not trying to be rude and judgemental. My anger is from you inability to even hear my advice, yes it is advice. It may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth. You think you have it all figured out until you realize you don't, and becoming pregnant isn't a good way to realize that. That's all I'm getting at. I just feel that you're blind siding your parents if whether you are pregnant or not. The attitude you have that you don't owe your parents anything upsets me the most.

They've put a roof over your head, fed you, raised you, the list goes on and on and on. You should be ashamed you feel you don't owe them anything.

That's the last of what I have to say on this subject, there's clearly no lesson to be learnt.

thankyou. Firstly though, some of the advice given was not exactly what I would call 'heartfelt' saying they feel sorry for my parents etc is not what this post was made for. But I shouldn't have reActed I understand that.

You need to remember that all the people here VOLUNTEER their time and knowledge to help other members. So yes, even though you may not have liked a particular piece of advice or disagreed with it doesn't mean it wasn't given out of caring for you.


Also, I may be 16 but that doesn't mean I know very little.

No one said you "know very little". But when you are a few years older you WILL look back on this time and be amazed at how little you really did know at this time.

Right cobra, I've heard your advice so cheers for that. However, don't tell me that I should be ashamed. Im not ashamed of anything whether you like it or not. Im glad that's all you've got to say, because in the nicest way possible, your advice is doing no good. And you don't have a clue what my parents have done for me. They may be nice now, doesn't mean they always were.

Right cobra, I've heard your advice so cheers for that. However, dont tell me that I should be ashamed. Im not ashamed of anything whether you like it or not. Im glad that's all you've got to say, because in the nicest way possible, your advice is doing no good. And you dont have a clue what my parents have done for me. They may be nice now, doesn't mean they always were.

No you're right I don't know. I don't know what it would have felt like either, but I did know someone probably much worse off than you. Is living at home really that bad that you don't feel you owe your parents anything?

Im not ashamed of anything whether you like it or not.

Actually, I think you are.


, i know having unprotected sex is stupid and irresponsible

That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.

Actually, I think you are.



That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.

Think what you like, but I know as a fact I'm not ashamed.

That certainly sounds like you are ashamed to me.
It doesn't mean I'm ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean I'm ashamed of anything.

It doesn't mean im ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean im ashamed of anything.
You went for the instant gratification without considering the very real and possible consequences. Or, if you did momentarily think about them, you concluded with, "It won't happen to me." You're not different from any other teenager in the world, not even from us when we were teens.

Three Chicago area teens are dead today after a tragic car accident yesterday. They felt like they would live forever and took a chance that they never would have taken had they been older--and now they are lying in funeral homes. Most of us luck out when we make bad decisions and everything works out okay, but some of us don't get lucky. I hope you luck out and learn from this.

Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Wondergirl again.

It doesn't mean im ashamed, it means I did something silly. Doesn't mean im ashamed of anything.

Do you regret it? Wish you hadn't done it? That's what being ashamed means.

Do you regret it? Wish you hadn't done it? That's what being ashamed means. I don't regret having sex with my boyfriend because I care about him? And those teens who died is an absolute tragedy and I pray their families have the support they need. My sister died and I don't need you to tell me that not everyone is lucky. I don't know why everyone is giving me a freaking lecture, I just want some statistics and now I can't have any statistics, please just leave it.

I dont regret having sex with my boyfriend because I care about him?!

You are really in denial. If you really don't regret having sex, then you wouldn't be so upset about the possibility of being pregnant. Since pregnancy is a consequence of having sex, then one does not follow the other.

Oh just go away! Look, I might be pregnant, I might not be pregnant. Im sick of getting notifications about you! Im just going to wait it out like J_9 said, so please now stop posting because it's making me worse than I wad before

Sorry if I say GOOD< perhaps something may get though to you about your actions. You seem to have or don't want to take any responsibility for your actions. Not understand the seriousness of what could happen. And will just keep making the same mistakes till they are pregnant if you are not now.

Sorry if I say GOOD< perhaps something may get though to you about your actions. You seem to have or don't want to take any responsiblity for your actions. Not understand the seriousness of what could happen. And will just keep making the same mistakes till they are pregnant if you are not now.

Thank you! The same thing has been on my mind the whole time. A part of me wants her to be pregnant so she can learn the hard way, because she seems to need to, but the other part of me wouldn't want to wish that on any 16 year old.

What's done is done though, and nothing can be taken back. It sure sucks, the world we live.

Wow you two are lovely

Hailey, I get your anger. You wanted someone to come along and say "Hey kid, don't worry, you're not pregnant, so go on with your happy life and don't give it another thought". No one can do that. The facts are, you had unprotected sex during a time when the majority of women are most fertile. Will sperm meet egg? Only time will tell. No one here can give you statistics. You either get pregnant, or you don't. Either way, you'll have to wait and see.

What you don't understand is that everyone that's responding to you is doing so because we have kids, we were kids, and you are a kid! The fact that you think that raising a baby is easy, or that you know anything about it, is scary. The fact that you had unprotected sex, knowing full well that you could get pregnant, is scary.

You may think you're mature, but really, you're not. You're like every other 16 year old I know. You're just like I was at 16. Screw the consequences, live for the moment, and whatever happens, no big deal. Someone else will take care of it.

I know you didn't want the lectures, but kiddo, you need them. I wish someone had given me the advice I've read on this thread when I was 16.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. In other words, sometimes you have to say "You're wrong, you're not mature, you are making a huge mistake, you're playing with your life", and if the poster doesn't like it, at least you know you did the best you could to make them see the light.

I wish I could give you peace of mind, but I can't. There's a chance that you're pregnant. Those are the facts. Are you? Don't know. You have to wait, just like every other woman on this Earth in the same situation. You did increase the odds of pregnancy considerably, but hopefully you got the empty chamber in this round of Russian roulette.

Learn from this. Read the posts as the mature 16 year old you claim to be. Better yet, if you are pregnant, and you have a daughter, and raise her. What advice would you want strangers giving her if she thinks she's pregnant at the age of 16? Can you think that far ahead? One day you will. Hopefully not 9 months from now.

Good luck. I hope that you dodge the bullet this time. I really do.

**Applauds Alty**

Thanks for everyone's advice. I didn't want people to come alone and say Hailey your definitely not pregnant, I wanted the truth and some statistics. And your all good at telling me the truth so thanks, it's the statistics your not so good with. You say there are no statistics that can help me but J_9 who does this for a job day in and day out said it's 50/50. So he was very helpful, I didn't therefore need you to keep chipping in. But thanks for your time. If anyone has any more statistics that can help me, please tell me because I really only know that I have to wait and I just wish I had more information so I would appreciate some HELPFUL advice:)

Thanks for everyone's advice. I didn't want people to come alone and say Hailey your definately not pregnant, I wanted the truth and some statistics. And your all good at telling me the truth so thanks, it's the statistics your not so good with. You say there are no statistics that can help me but J_9 who does this for a job day in and day out said it's 50/50. So he was very helpful, I didn't therefore need you to keep chipping in. But thanks for your time. If anyone has any more statistics that can help me, please tell me because I really only know that I have to wait and I just wish I had more information so I would appreciate some HELPFUL advice:)


I know how you are feeling with the statistics, you want something to soothe your brain so you can sleep well at night, but reality is there is no real statistic sweetheart. There are many factors that can contribute, whether it be your fertility, whether the sperm made it to the egg or not and the list goes on and on.

All you can know for sure is that you have a real chance of becoming pregnant, an waiting is all you can do, only time will tell now.

I'm deeply sorry for offending you and aggravating you in the way I did. I truly care about the people who post on this website asking for advice, whether it's for statistics, help with a problem, or even advice on how to deal with something. Having said that, everything I said was to genuinely help you, whether you wanted to hear it or not. This is a very real issue you have that can change your life forever, and if you are pregnant I don't want you to be hurt and let down if everything that follows does not meet your expectations.

I wish you the best, I really do, and I hope if you have any more issues or concerns you think of us.

'cobramenace' I'm really sorry for being rude to you, as you can imagine I'm seriouuusly stressed and everything anyone says is getting to me. I really shouldn't have taken it out on you as you were just trying to help, I'm sorry and thank you

'cobramenace' im really sorry for being rude to you, as you can imagine im seriouuusly stressed and everything anyone says is getting to me. I really shouldn't have taken it out on you as you were just trying to help, im sorry and thankyou

You have no need to appologize, I very much realize the stress you are going through, I've been in similar situations myself. I truly hope everything works out for the best, pregnant or not. If you are not I hope you have learnt a valuable lesson from this experience, but I believe you have.

Sincerely,
-Justin

You have no need to appologize, I very much realize the stress you are going through, I've been in similar situations myself. I truly hope everything works out for the best, pregnant or not. If you are not I hope you have learnt a valuable lesson from this experience, but I believe you have.

Sincerely,
-Justin

Thank you Justin,
As hard as it may be for everyone to believe, I do appreciate you commenting so thank you ha:)
Hailey H

Thankyou Justin,
As hard as it may be for everyone to believe, I do appreciate you commenting so thankyou ha:)
Hailey H

Put a smile on my face.

I sure do hope you think of us anytime you're between a rock and a hard place. We're all ready and willing to help.

Put a smile on my face.

I sure do hope you think of us anytime you're between a rock and a hard place. We're all ready and willing to help.

Well Justin, that put a smile on my face! :) so if I'm having a baby, and it's crying every night and I want to pop out for a bit you up for babysitting? ;) hahaha, seriously though thank you, I'll remember this:)

Hailey H

Well Justin, that put a smile on my face! :) so if im having a baby, and it's crying every night and I wanna pop out for a bit you up for babysitting? ;) hahaha, seriously though thankyou, i'll remember this:)

Hailey H

Sure you can ship him/her via purolator right to my work. ;) Keep us posted.

Sure you can ship him/her via purolator right to my work. ;) Keep us posted.

Haha I'll hold you to that;) And of course I will:)

Hailey,
I just found this thread and I must say for a moment there I was a little worried about you.
I am glad for the turn it has taken.
I have no statistics, or words of wisdom that you haven't already heard, I think you have gotten very good advice.
I only want to say that I truly hope that you have dodged the bullet this time.
But I hope you use this as a learning experience.
Keep us posted, I think I know of a few people who are concerned about your predicament and you.

Hailey,
I just found this thread and I must say for a moment there I was a little worried about you.
I am glad for the turn it has taken.
I have no statistics, or words of wisdom that you haven't already heard, I think you have gotten very good advice.
I only want to say that I truly hope that you have dodged the bullet this time.
But I hope you use this as a learning experience.
Keep us posted, I think I know of a few people who are concerned about your predicament and you.

What do you mean you know of a few people who are concerned about me?

I'm talking about the people here who have been answering your post, not personally.
What I have figured out about the people here are they really do care.
They are mothers, fathers, grandparents, every day people from all walks of life and they are here because they do care.

I'm talking about the people here who have been answering your post, not personally.
What I have figured out about the people here are they really do care.
They are mothers, fathers, grandparents, every day people from all walks of life and they are here because they do care.

Oh you confused me. I know they care, I didn't realise it at first but now I do

Sorry for the confusion. Yeah, I picked up on your realizing it during my reading, can I tell you it me me smile inside.

Sorry for the confusion. Yeah, I picked up on your realizing it during my reading, can I tell you it me me smile inside.

Im glad:) I didn't mean to be rude, I'm not that sort of person, reading back the conversation it makes me upset how I was talking to those people, I just want some answers:( it's so hard not knowing if I have something growing inside me

I understand, that's a lot of stress for a young lady, And I think you lashed out because of some of the confusion and uncertainty you were feeling.
The important thing is that you know now these people aren't out to get you, they only wanted to help.
I bet once you read back you saw suggestions and advice you really didn't look that good at before because of being upset.
Soak it all in it's good advice.
Good luck to you dear, I'm keeping up with this OK?
I want to know how you are doing.

I understand, that's a lot of stress for a young lady, And I think you lashed out because of some of the confusion and uncertainty you were feeling.
The important thing is that you know now these people aren't out to get you, they only wanted to help.
I bet once you read back you saw suggestions and advice you really didn't look that good at before because of your being upset.
Soak it all in it's good advice.
Good luck to you dear, I'm keeping up with this ok?
I want to know how you are doing. thank you, I will post as soon as I know anything

Im glad:) I didn't mean to be rude, im not that sort of person, reading back the conversation it makes me upset how I was talking to those people, I just want some answers:( it's so hard not knowing if I have something growing inside me

You're frustrated, and upset, and stressed. We get that. We really do. I've been in the same boat you've been in, and sadly, I didn't learn anything from it. But I got very lucky. Very very lucky. I found out later that I had a condition (easily fixed) that would never have allowed me to get pregnant (until it was fixed, which it was). So maybe it wasn't all just luck. It was my body too.

Fact is, I put myself at risk too many times when I was a teen. I wish I had known then what I know now.

Really, everything I've written to you, are the very words I will tell my daughter when she's old enough to hear them.

There's absolutely no reason why you have to learn from your own mistakes. You can learn from others mistakes too.

Please let us know what happens. I sincerely hope that you're not pregnant, and that what you're feeling right now, comes back to you the next time you're in a passionate moment and thinking about having sex.

Babies are tough work. I have two kids. Babies are the most selfish creatures on the face of this Earth, Dog love them, and they will test everything you have in you. I was 27 when I had my first child. I was married, financially secure, owned a home, you name it. I thought I was ready. I was ready in all the ways that mattered, but I have to tell you, it was hard. Being a parent is the hardest job I've ever had, and I used to clean toilets in a welding shop! ;)

We're here if you need any help. We're here for you when you find out whether you're pregnant or not, and if you are, we're here to help by discussing the options you have, and just for moral support.

I've been on this site for 4 and a half years. The people here are great. I'd trust them with my own kids. :)

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Words of wisdom, Alty, words of wisdom.

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Words of wisdom, Alty, words of wisdom.

Thank you kind sir. :)

Thank you all:)

Here are four sites that give odds of getting pregnant. You can find many more.
I can't think of any reason why there wouldn't be valid statistics available on an issue that would have been studied to the degree that this one has.
What Are The Odds of Conceiving And Having A Baby | BabyMed.com (http://www.babymed.com/getting-pregnant/what-are-the-odds-conceiving-conception)
Odds of Getting Pregnant - Chances of Getting Pregnant - Redbook (http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/get-pregnant-yl-4)

Emergency contraception: Risk of pregnancy without birth control (http://ec.princeton.edu/questions/risk.html)
Odds of Getting Pregnant by Age (http://naturalinfertilitycures.com/odds-of-getting-pregnant)

Here are four sites that give odds of getting pregnant.

The problem with any such statistical analysis is that it doesn't measure the odds a specific person will get pregnant. It measures the percentages of a test sample of people. So it doesn't say that Jane Doe stands a 40% chance of getting pregnant it says that 40% of the woman surveyed that met x conditions became pregnant.

If you find comfort (or alarm) in the statistics these sites offer, then fine. But the facts are that you had multiple deposits of sperm during a period when you were probably most fertile. So the probability that an egg would be fertilized under those conditions is a least 50/50 as J_9 said. Could be much higher though. Think of it this way. Lets say you have a bunch of 1 ft square tiles. Lets say you spread 10 of them out around you and you throw a bean bag in the air. The probability of the bag landing on a tile is one number. Now spread out more tiles and the odds increase. Throw up 2 bags and the odds further increase. That's what you have done, you spread a lot of tiles and have thrown multiple bean bags. But no one can really say what the odds are that a bean bag will hit a tile.

She asked for odds. There are sites that appear to be legitimate like Princeton who are willing to state their findings and make general predictions, which we all know are not guarantees. But that doesn't make predictions based on science worthless.
She hasn't expressed any comfort or alarm based on my post. The odds of your bean bag hitting a particular tile certainly can be computed based on mathematical probability so long as it is clear set of circumstances given.

She asked for odds. There are sites that appear to be legitimate like Princeton who are willing to state their findings and make general predictions, which we all know are not guarantees. But that doesn't make predictions based on science worthless.
She hasn't expressed any comfort or alarm based on my post. The odds of your bean bag hitting a particular tile certainly can be computed based on mathematical probability so long as it is clear set of circumstances given.

When you find an equation that tells me the exact odds of a bean bag hitting tiles, when someone random is throwing it. Let me know, statistics and odds are not based of fact, but of guessing and assuming.

And we all know what they say about assuming.

She asked for odds.

She asked for the odds that SHE was pregnant! Not how many women became pregnant in a given set of circumstances. Those were good sites you linked to and you did good by doing so. I wasn't criticizing that. I was just commenting that the statistics offered by those studies are just an analysis of surveyed women. They don't, necessarily, reflect on the probability of her being pregnant.

And yes, the odds of the bean bags hitting a tile are measurable. Just as the odds of her being pregnant are IF we knew the # of sperm that entered her system, the volume of her reproductive organs and the exact moment ovulation.

Thank you for trying to help, I really appreciate it, and those websites were helpful