My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, everything was great except when we argued about my ex girlfriend. I do not keep in contact with my ex, the last time I saw or spoken to my ex was at my mates wedding about a year ago in which I was the grooms man. At the wedding I did not speak or show any attention to my ex but toward the end of the night I was saying good bye to everyone and my ex was hanging next to me as if we were a couple.

Afterward my girlfriend lashed out at me, I could totally understand where she was coming from but I have always assured her I have no feelings toward my ex as I love her very much. About an hour later my ex sends me a text message to thank me for a good night. My girlfriend saw it and rang my ex from my phone to tell her there is no need to text me which I totally agreed and have also told this to my ex on the phone. Till this day about a year later that night still comes up when we fight, my girlfriend said I should have executed it there and then and I made her lose her dignity.

The main problem started happening about 3 months ago when my girlfriend started a new position in which she has to start really early. Due to our different working hours it was very hard for us to see each other which I totally understand. As week went on it seems like she doesn't try to make time to see me, it started of seeing each other once a week then less and less etc.

I asked her if anything is wrong and she said she likes the time to do her own things, I left it for a while as days went by I keep thinking to myself it's not a healthy relationship, I'm not asking to see each other every day but since both our odd working hours shouldn't we make an effort when we do have time? But she just doesn't want to see me. So I suggested we should have a little break so she can sort out what it is that she really wants. She messaged me two days later saying she wants to talk to me and she really misses me, I replied we should use the time to reflect on our relationship.

She messaged me the next day saying I'm cold and too strong, so I told her we will scrap the no contact as it was obviously not working. Then a week later she sends me a message saying she can't do it anymore to us as our story has come to an end and the best thing to do is to set us free, she said I deserve a girl who was not complicated and a girl who makes me happy. I replied she was the one who makes me happy and she's the one I want to be with and she said we should just let it be, I didn't want to push it anymore so I agreed and we haven't spoken since for three days.

I have decided not to contact her as I figured if she really wants to talk to me she will call me but is that the right thing to do? Does she want me to call to show that I care as she has always said I'm not romantic or sensitive? Please help.

We can't read minds, so it's really hard to say what she wants but she made it clear to you. She wants to move on, which is probably the best thing to do. You lost the spark, and without a spark you can't make fire. Go no contact, and begin moving on, don't get sucked back into a relationship that will eventually spiral again into nothing. You both weren't meant to be, accept it and move forward.

Thanks for that, I figured that's the right thing to do. She has some issues at the moment and I guess I just didn't want to throw it all away. I want to be there for her if this is a bad time she's going though? It just seems funny that last week she said she knows she loves me but not in love with me and she wants to be with me and now she just did a complete u turn?

Dude move on and go NC

Hi all, I'm sure a lot of people have ask this question but my girlfriend well ex girlfriend broke up with me last week as she said she loves me but can't lie and say she's in love with me? She has been confused for a while since she started on a new position in which she has to start very early and odd hours and we haven't seen each probably for about 3 months, I did push her and push her for answers cause I could feel something was wrong, I regret pushing for answers but I suppose it would have just been a band aid solution and she was going to brake up eventually? I guess I could see it coming but I was in denial. The question is I don't want to throw it all away if she's confused? I'm doing the no contact and haven't text or spoken for a few days. I know deep down I have to move on and find myself but I guess the question is how often does situation like these end positively. I know every situation is different but do they ever come back?

Leave her alone guy, she has issues she needs to work on, and frankly so do you because if a couple cannot resolve their issues to the benefit of you both, then they will never succeed together. And you didn't. This thing has been falling apart for sometime now, and you got the break you wanted. Use it wisely, and work on yourself.

Most of the time that is it. They don't come back. They might but they soon leave again.

Thanks for that, I figured that's the case. I just needed someone to confirm it. The female mind work in such a bazzar way don't they.

Thanks for that, I figured that's the case. I just needed someone to confirm it. The female mind work in such a bazzar way don't they.
This happens with males too

Please note your threads have been combined so no need to start a new thread. AGAIN.

Once people get themselves under control, and there llife back in good order, if the ex does come back, they no longer want to go back to them.

Please note your threads have been combined so no need to start a new thread. AGAIN.

Once people get themselves under control, and there llife back in good order, if the ex does come back, they no longer want to go back to them.

Has there been a successful case of someone getting their lives under control and taking the ex back?

Of course there are many stories here that the ex came back, even more about they ex came back, only to leave again, or it didn't work for the long run. Many more I think of those that got through the pain, rebuilt a life they enjoyed, and found better than what they had lost.

What they have in common is wanting the ex back badly in the early stages of the healing process. They are all here for you to browse. Have you read the stickies (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)? Interesting insights as HOW people keep on to better things they never thought possible.