I met this 19 yr old in an online game about a yr ago and we became a couple the summer of last yr. I was up front about my past sexual relationships and boyfriends since I have nothing to hide, and he claims to be a virgin but had a "fling" when he was 16. At the time I didn't ask what he meant but all I remember is that it lasted 2 weeks, they were alone on the couch, she was a slut that talked about oral sex a lot, and they could have had sex if he wanted. Now if I ask him, I get "we only kissed, I swear". Two 16 yrs olds alone on and off for 2 weeks and only kissing? No, I'm not buying it.

Last summer, in our game, a new "bi" girl came alone and they would spend every night together, just the two of them, until 3-6 am. She had a boyfriend but I knew they had an open relationship. I found out later more details and that she was very open with him about her sexual encounters. He claims the only reason he was up late with her is he was bored and there was no one else up that late. I don't think I'll ever really know what happened between the two of them.

At the end of last year I had planned to visit. I knew he was into porn and I don't really care for it, so I asked him to not watch it and just wait for me to visit. He assured me he wouldn't watch it, but months later I found out that after we'd log off Skype, he would go to the porn website. He now tells me he lied because he was scared to lose me.

He used to smoke weed and I know some of his friends still do that he likes to hang out with. I am very anti-drug and won't even consider dating someone who does it, so he says he quit for me. He recently got a job and it's the one place that is known not to drug test.

He wants to visit me in a couple of weeks but I just don't know anymore. Nothing he says seems like it's the truth. Am I overreacting?

Many lie online to be who they think others want them to be, if there are "little warning voices" now, listen to them.

1. he is using drugs
2. he likes porn
3. you know no one should talk about past relationships unless they want to or feel forced to, so I would forgive him for lying about that, since personally he should not have been asked or seen to need to tell you.

Yes you are over reacting, and expecting too much from this on line relationship. There are many, many things you have yet to learn about people you meet on line. Many assumptions you have made to fill in the blanks of not being face to face (Skype doesn't count), and many things that may not even be true.

Porn, and drugs may be the tip of the iceberg here, so eyes wide open if you are planning a visit and make sure you cover your own a$$ with a lot of reliable people to watch over you and a PLAN B,C,D, just in case he has fooled the hell out of you.

You just never can tell with this cyber type of interaction, and a lot of thought and caution is REQUIRED!! Over reacting should be the least of your concerns.

I just don't believe him

I sure wouldn't either!!