Domikat1112
Jun 2, 2012, 08:10 PM
Okay so, here's the story.
I have this friend. She's wonderful and everything, and I love talking to her, but sometimes she just really annoys me. My best friend thinks the same way about her. It could just be our jealousy because she's an amazing singer, baker... everything. And she gets along sooooo well with guys. And she's a natural born leader. So she's almost perfect, depending on how you look at it. So maybe I'm paranoid because I'm jealous. I'm considering that.
But then again... she does hang around my boyfriend A LOT. They're in a band together, so it's understandable in those situations. But even when we're hanging together as a group, she sort of lingers around him, laughs at everything he says, mentions all the inside jokes they have, and gets in between us. My best friend and my mom both say that she likes him and that she's trying to get between us, but I'm not sure... I don't want to think badly about her, but I'm starting to. And I think it's unfair to her, and to myself. And even to my boyfriend.
My issue is not that she might make a move. My issue is that I don't know what she really thinks... and I'm afraid of what my boyfriend might think of her. So I'm scared to ask. I don't want to sound like a clingy, jealous girlfriend. And I definitely don't want to incite any drama... this is my first drama-free relationship!
So the big question is, should I talk to her about it? I don't mean get angry or anything, I mean just talk about it. I know that if I liked a guy that was dating someone, I may unconsciously flirt/make some moves too, it's not uncommon in girls, so I want to know if it's like that, or if she doesn't like him, or if she's actually trying to get him...
And what worries me is that she and him talk so easily, though she talks easily with all guys. :\
Okay, so maybe I am jealous. And paranoid. But it's been bugging me. I can't hang with the two of them together, because it bugs me that much. I know I'm being immature about it, but I've gotten different answers from different people. What do you suggest is a mature, rational way to go about this that will result in the least drama?
I have this friend. She's wonderful and everything, and I love talking to her, but sometimes she just really annoys me. My best friend thinks the same way about her. It could just be our jealousy because she's an amazing singer, baker... everything. And she gets along sooooo well with guys. And she's a natural born leader. So she's almost perfect, depending on how you look at it. So maybe I'm paranoid because I'm jealous. I'm considering that.
But then again... she does hang around my boyfriend A LOT. They're in a band together, so it's understandable in those situations. But even when we're hanging together as a group, she sort of lingers around him, laughs at everything he says, mentions all the inside jokes they have, and gets in between us. My best friend and my mom both say that she likes him and that she's trying to get between us, but I'm not sure... I don't want to think badly about her, but I'm starting to. And I think it's unfair to her, and to myself. And even to my boyfriend.
My issue is not that she might make a move. My issue is that I don't know what she really thinks... and I'm afraid of what my boyfriend might think of her. So I'm scared to ask. I don't want to sound like a clingy, jealous girlfriend. And I definitely don't want to incite any drama... this is my first drama-free relationship!
So the big question is, should I talk to her about it? I don't mean get angry or anything, I mean just talk about it. I know that if I liked a guy that was dating someone, I may unconsciously flirt/make some moves too, it's not uncommon in girls, so I want to know if it's like that, or if she doesn't like him, or if she's actually trying to get him...
And what worries me is that she and him talk so easily, though she talks easily with all guys. :\
Okay, so maybe I am jealous. And paranoid. But it's been bugging me. I can't hang with the two of them together, because it bugs me that much. I know I'm being immature about it, but I've gotten different answers from different people. What do you suggest is a mature, rational way to go about this that will result in the least drama?