Me and my girl have been together for a whole year now and we trust each other a lot. We are deeply in love but there's one problem. She decided to kiss a girl and to be honest I felt like I was hanging out in the blue and my emotions were so confusing. But she said it was to try it and we got into a deep conversation about what we consider to be cheating and what we should do during a relationship or not.

Even though this happened she is always telling me how girl lips are softer and egging me on about it. I don't know what to tell her to make her stop and not sound like a prick at the same time. How do I get her to stop talking about this? During our deep conversation she promised not to kiss a girl or do anything with any girl that only I should be doing. But I have a feeling she will break this promise.

First time I've ever questioned my own trust for her.

Many men find this a turn on, and many women love to arouse them this way. Others like to tease and get their men jealous this way (to keep the spark alive), because it's safer than fooling around with another man. Then there's the chance that she's gay, bi, or just wondering. So your job is to find out if any of those scenarios are the reason! Ask her.

Just like to point out that I'd love for my girlfriend to make out with another chick, in front of me preferably, but hey you're bothered by it and we're all different I get that. All you can do is talk to her about it, communication is key in any relationship. Tell her it really bothers you, and that you'd rather her not talk about it. Honestly, if she can't understand that, then you should really think about what the relationship means.

Don't worry about it, you may be confused but there's no need. Sure maybe it wasn't the wright thing to do on her part, but trust me girls are very keen and curious we always like to try new things and experiment she was just trying something new. Perhaps she was bored, maybe take your mind off it, it will be easier for both of you. Ask her how she feels about maybe trying new things with you. She might just be bored. But it will all be fine.

And when it says creating I mean to say cheating

I think that you can't change a persons sexuality,it is also my belief that a woman's curiosity will drive her to at least try another woman at least once in there life I think that you all should talk about what her sexuality really is I was oblivious to my woman's bi sexuality for 8 years she always denied it but I think if she was truthful with you it would be much easier for you to understand!

i think that you can't change a persons sexuality,it is also my belief that a womans curiosity will drive her to at least try another woman at least once in there life i think that you all should talk about what her sexuality really is i was oblivious to my womans bi sexuality for 8 years she always denied it but i think if she was truthful with you it would be much easier for you to understand!!


The fact that your wife is bisexual does NOT mean that all women "try another woman" at least once in [their] life. Your wife, apparently yes. The majority of the world, I'd say no.

How old are you both? Perhaps she was curious, perhaps she is bi. I don't know, but if you have established the boundaries of what's cheating, and what's not, as most guys do get a thrill from this and maybe that's what she expected from you too.

However, since you don't, then make this clear and tell her to drop it. I imagine you have, so I suspect she has something up her sleeve. I would ask if she persists what's her motivation for doing so. Maybe she wants the best of both worlds, and if you have no trust, or understanding, get the facts before you go worrying about it.

I would. Then I would decide if the aggravation and worry was worth it, or not.

Sounds like she is trying to push your buttons. Put up with it or call her bluff and see what happens.